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Man Found Guilty Of Killing Pregnant Girlfriend To Avoid Child Support [VIDEO]

Man Found Guilty Of Killing Pregnant Girlfriend To Avoid Child Support [VIDEO] | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
Christopher Simpson, 27 (pictured left), was found guilty of two counts of first degree murder by an Oklahoma jury for the April 9, execution-style slaying of his pregnant girlfriend, Ka'loni Flynn...
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Some people are sick.  To think that someone would do this and kill two people so he could simply avoid paying child support.  There are no alternatives?  What about a vesectomy if he didn't want children?  Ever heard of condoms?  

 

Murder to avoid Child Support?  Jail for life isn't even a fair punishment for a man like this.  He still has his life to live in some way.  What about this poor dead woman and child?

 

If he did this just to avoid child support then he needs some serious mental health work and he certainly should never get out to be released on the rest of the public.

 

What would he do next?  Stab a delivery boy because his pizza was delivered cold but he was told he had to pay for it?

 

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The Bad Clients You Don’t Take Will Be the Best Money You Never Made

The Bad Clients You Don’t Take Will Be the Best Money You Never Made | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
Never try and convince yourself that any client is a good client. It’s not that simple.

Via Jacqui Gilliatt
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Excellent Article!  Taking every client just to make more money is a bad idea.  You've got to develop a knack for identifying the clients who will drain you more than anything.  As a divorce lawyer I know that if I'm going to take on a particularly difficult and stressful client then that level of stress is valuable and drains me just as much as an intricate legal situation and therefore, a client will pay a higher rate if they want to obtain my services.  However, in most instances they just couldn't pay me enough for the drain they are going to put on me.  Money isn't everything.

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Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards to mediate Child Support | Fathers 4 Justice USA - Fathers, Mothers, Grandparents and Children UNITED and WINNING at Family Law

Charlie Sheen and Denise Richards to mediate Child Support | Fathers 4 Justice USA - Fathers, Mothers, Grandparents and Children UNITED and WINNING at Family Law | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it

Charlie Sheen goes back to the mediation block with Denise Richards but should he have to.  What does a father have to do in order to get to see his children?  Shouldn't mothers and fathers have equal parenting rights and equal time with the kids?

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It's a concept that to my knowledge isn't accepted in most states that seems to be advocated by this website.... "no see, no pay."  Charlie Sheen seems to be doing everything he can to see the children he has with Denise Richards so now he'll try mediation.  

 

Children need to be supported financially whether the non-custodial parent is seeing the children or not and yet it certainly would be tremendous incentive for the custodial parent not to withhold parenting time from the non-custodial parent if they aren't going to be paid.

 

The problem with the "no see, no pay" concept arises when there is a parent who wants to see the children and is denied time with them versus a parent who doesn't care about seeing the children and then simply doesn't make payment and claims that he's not being allowed to see the children.  

 

What do you think?  What would be a good remedy to insure payment of child support while at the same time insuring that non-custodial parents get to spend their parenting time with their children?

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Divorce Settlements and Higher Education - Huffington Post

Divorce Settlements and Higher Education - Huffington Post | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
Divorce Settlements and Higher Education
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Another possibility is a divorce settlement agreement in which a parent assumes a future obligation to pay for a child's college education.
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College Education... should a parent have to pay for it.  This article hits on the big case that has come up recently with high school girl Rachel Canning, age 18, who is suing her parents for a variety of relief including weekly support, her private high school expenses and her upcoming college expenses.

 

This New Jersey case may be precedent setting although it raises a variety of issues, including to what extent a parent can set reasonable rules in their own home as terms of living their.  

 

In Rhode Island a parent is not required to pay for a child's higher education unless the child reaches that level of education before the age of 19 or the age of 18 and graduation from high school which are the triggering stages for the termination of the non-custodial parents rights.  If the child reaches those milestones earlier than expected than a judge may order child support that includes payment of a portion of those expenses by the non-custodial parent if the court determines it is warranted, that the parent can afford it and that it is in the best interests of the minor child.

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Husband charged in horrific crash that killed wife hours after...

Husband charged in horrific crash that killed wife hours after... | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
A Georgia man charged with vehicular homicide following the death of his bride is out of jail on bond.
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Happily married to a widower within hours!  The story said he turned himself in, but other than for DUI it is hard to tell what he turned himself in for.  There seems to be no foul play and no reason for it.

 

Looks to me like the man paid the ultimate price for his DUI, the loss of the love of his life.  A beautiful woman who died too young.

 

What does one do when the best day of your life turns into your worst day.  We often all pray for many things in life.  Perhaps this man would have prayed simply to turn back the clock and have 2 less champagne's.

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Stabbing...Beating...Left to Burn to Death in the House over non-existent affair? Divorce Results ?

Stabbing...Beating...Left to Burn to Death in the House over non-existent affair?  Divorce Results ? | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
... property was affirmed. Peterson v. Peterson (Tennessee Court of Appeals, Eastern Section, January 31, 2014). Information provided by K.O. Herston: Knoxville, Tennessee Divorce, Matrimonial and Family Law Attorney.
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HOLY SHIT!  That's what I thought when I saw this article.  

 

Wow, this woman was stabbed repeatedly by her husband with at least one stab piercing her heart, on top of that he beats her, then to finish the job he tries to burn the house down with her inside of it! Then he used marital monies to pay his criminal lawyer to boot and gets off with what is akin to a slap on the wrist.  This guy tried to murder this woman in 3 different ways.

 

So naturally she's divorcing him or was already in the process of doing so.

 

Should 82.8% of the assets been enough for this woman in the divorce?  A tough call on appeal when you're dealing with such outrageous circumstances, right?  Maybe not?  Find out what the appeals court ruled in this  incredible case!

 

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WATCH: Father of the 15-year-old being held at Boston Children’s Hospital speaks out for the first time

WATCH: Father of the 15-year-old being held at Boston Children’s Hospital speaks out for the first time | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it

Lou Pelletier joined Glenn on Monday's Glenn Beck Program to discuss - for the first time - what this past year has been like for his family and what he hopes will come from his speaking out.

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Though I can't verify it, if this is in fact true that a hospital has literally stolen custody of a child from the parents with not only the permission of the court but while putting a gag order on everyone from talking about the case or the stolen custody, it is nothing short of an outrage.  Who does the hospital or the court think it is for that matter for taking a child from her natural biological parents without any indicator of abuse or harm from the parents?

 

Instead it is because of a medical issue that has nothing to do with any form of abuse?  We're not allowed to lock up anyone who is HIV positive because they might be able to spread a deadly immune deficiency to others.... which is as it should be!  So how can this be?  Where is the jurisdiction?  Where is the right?  Where is the law?  Something is missing here and something is rotten in Denmark as they say!  They can't even talk about it in order to get financial help for their mounting financial fight to get their child back after they are forcibly removed from the hospital and only get to see their child for 1 hour!  If the story is even half-correct and their isn't law that allows the hospital to do what it did, then the hospital and it's administrators should be sued into bankruptcy!!!

 

Yet the father seemingly is speaking out just the same to save his child and his family from being torn apart and from becoming destitute over something which I'm sure in his mind should not be happening.  Perhaps I would look at it differently if I had more information.... perhaps everyone would... but we don't have all that much information when the court issues a gag order.

 

Read the article and donate if you feel so inclined.  I'll try to find out more and post it when I find it.

 

http://www.video.theblaze.com/media/video.jsp?content_id=31371143

 

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'Grey divorce' creates unique financial challenges

'Grey divorce' creates unique financial challenges | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
For the new generation of empty nesters, marriage breakups are increasingly common and with (RT @TheTorontoSun: "Grey divorces" come with unique set of financial challenges.
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Finances and financial pressures are one the biggest causes of divorces.  Couples need to realize that finances are merely temporary.  If you give up and think of finances  as permanent and stop trying to overcome your issues then you often doom your relationship to failure because you give financial issues precedence over your relationship.  Remember, there is ALWAYS a way to overcome finances.

 

 

 

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REPOST - Mt. Washington man accused of owing $106,000 in child support arrested

REPOST - Mt. Washington man accused of owing $106,000 in child support arrested | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
A Mt. Washington man accused of being a deadbeat father was arrested Friday afternoon by Allegheny County Sheriff's deputies. A warrant was issued in November ...
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This is a short article about 2 men arrested as a result of being accused of having very large child support balances/arrearages.
 
There are several things to note about this article that bothered me because in the media the words you use makes all the difference.
 
Though I thought it was good that they said the men were ACCUSED of having these balances for two reasons.  (1) that we are presumed innocent until proven guilty on any conduct labeled as criminal, and (2) there is nothing to say that the accountings aren't wrong.
 
If people haven't read about the scandals rocking the country about people in child support offices who have been ordered to add $10,000 or even $100,000 to a non-custodial parent's child support obligation because the state can receive funding from the federal government based upon the amount of child support on the state's books each year, then you need to look into this.  It's big and goes to the heart of corruption in family court systems to obtain additional federal funding while non-custodial parents pay a huge price, and I don't just mean monetarily. So, these parents have the opportunity to challenge these accountings.  If they owe them then they owe them.  If not, I certainly hope they have their paperwork in order.
 
What I find reprehensible about this article is the reference to law enforcement stating that this is the most anyone has OWED in the history of arresting DEADBEAT DADS.
 
If the press got it wrong as to what was said, then they should clear it up, but you don't presume, let alone state from a public figure that the person OWED the money if the person hasn't had the chance to prove that it isn't a correct balance.  It taints the fact that the person is innocent until proven guilty and and could ruin the reputation of a good parent who could possibly be nothing more than a scapegoat for a screwed up computer system, a data entry person who entered too many numbers because they were tired, or a system that is corrupt and wanted the federal subsidies so they bumped a guy's child support by $100,000 or even $300,000 and then arrested the parent to make the amount seem legitimate.  So whether the press got it wrong or the sheriff got it wrong, that one statement makes a big difference when the media has a lot to do with public perception and even judicial perception.
 
So the amount claimed as child support is ALLEGEDLY OWED and nothing more at this point!
 
On another note, I find it reprehensible that the term "Deadbeat Dads" is once again used here.  There are mothers that pay (and don't pay) their child support.  If they want to use "Deadbeat Parents", then by all means do so.  Yet I'm tired of the fact that men are singled out.  If the Sheriff's Department only targets or arrests men rather than all parents who don't pay their child support then they have a bigger problem then they think.  Yet this is just another example of how men are wrongfully persecuted in the system by a term that should relate to both mothers and fathers and yet the phraseology is only attributed to men.
 
And since I'm on a roll for truth, justice and the American way let me add one last thought.  People fall on bad times, men and women who pay child support.  Many can't afford a lawyer, can't get a free one, and don't know the law or have the knowledge or education to find out what it is.  I have seen numerous child support balances that have resulted from people who have come upon hard times and rightfully should have been entitled to a child support reduction so they could pay what they rightfully could pay, but they didn't know the law so their child support mounts up and mounts up and gains interest and is capitalized over and over so that interest is paid on interest again and again at rates you can't even get in a bank.  The result.  Poor parents who are victims of circumstance who despite their best efforts cannot pay the ridiculous child support amounts which accrue because of faulty systems that have failed to take into account the fact that there are those who don't know the law. 

 

It's wrong!

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Cohabitation drives family breakdown, campaigners claim - Marilyn Stowe Blog

Cohabitation drives family breakdown, campaigners claim - Marilyn Stowe Blog | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
Cohabitation is the key driver of family breakdown, the Marriage Foundation has claimed. (Cohabitation drives family breakdown. But what do you do about it? New on my blog.

Via Jacqui Gilliatt
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Marilyn, as context I am a lawyer practicing divorce and family exclusively in the United States,  specifically Rhode Island.

 

The article in your blog is very interesting but focuses mostly on the financial aspects of maintaining families.  However, you seem to be  equatingwaiting families with marriage and that is not necessarily the case.  The family unit has a much greater and broader definition than merely those that are married. 

 

The fact is that people get married for many different reasons. Some people get married for money. Others get married for love.  There are those who even get married for legal and/or governmental benefits  or to avoid legal penalties.  The same as exactly and precisely true of divorce.

 

 While I can understand that making the legal marriage commitment  might seemingly keep  a family together because if you were to equate marriage with "family" then it takes an extra legal step to destroy the  "family" by severing the  "marriage."

 

 Unless "Marriage" is exactly equivalent to "Family" then the reasoning of your blog article fails.

 

Ultimately, there are variety of factors that lead to whether or not families retain their stability. Your position is clearly that marriages contribute to and/or form the basis of the family unit.  However,  as much as people relate marriages with their relationships, the two are not one and the same. In truth, marriage is a legal contract just as much as divorce is a dissolution of that legal contract. However, it is the relationships underlying the various commitments that people of made to each other that actually form what may be considered "family."

 

 People take various steps to get married or remain without that legal bond for all sorts of reasons. To opine that cohabitation is causing the downfall of families merely relies upon your definition of what a "family" is.  To the minds of many, a dedicated relationship between two people were not married and yet have children can be just as much a  "family" as two people who are in fact "married."

 

The distinction that you are talking about in your blog article relates specifically to marriage as being the foundation of the family. As can be seen in many instances in our society that is not the case today.

 

There is in fact a young  woman that I met several years back.  After a while we became very good friends  and we have been able to talk about many subjects including various family issues more deeply than those people who are either related to me by blood or by marriage. She was in fact the "sister" that I never had. Intern she thought the same way about me. Namely, that I was the brother she never had.  For years now we have been referring to each other as "family." Almost invariably, we refer to each other as brother and sister and we specifically call each other "family."

 

Throughout my whole life  I have had  aunts and uncles who were related to mean either by blood or marriage, even as a child.  Family has taken on a much deeper meaning  than merely "marriages", "legal" and  "blood"  relationships.

 

I'm sure that many people share different views from what is contained in your blog.  There are many types of families in the world  and  many of them do not even remotely relate to the term "marriage."

 

 In fact, I'd be willing to bet that cohabitation prior to marriage  actually strengthens and solidifies the marriage when the cohabitation is meant for a reasonable amount of time.

 

 I'd be interested in other people's thoughts.

 

 

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Bar backs custody bill; group says it falls short - Rapid City Journal

Bar backs custody bill; group says it falls short - Rapid City Journal | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
Bar backs custody bill; group says it falls short Rapid City Journal SIOUX FALLS | South Dakota's lawyers are supporting legislation to establish child custody guidelines for judges to follow in divorce cases, but a group advocating for a shared...
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South Dakota Bar backs measure to prevent inconsisten order but doesn't go far enough toward shared parenting when both parents are capable.

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One of The Stupidest Grounds For Divorce is the Proper Way to Eat a Plate of Peas

One of The Stupidest Grounds For Divorce is the Proper Way to Eat a Plate of Peas | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
One woman is blaming her divorce on a plate of peas.
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Bread vs. a Fork?  This is the grounds for divorce?  How petty can one be?  It is not the embarrassment of how the peas are eaten that is more embarrassing but that a person places such value on how a plate of peas is eaten that she throws away a marriage presumably to a person she once loved.  Stick with your bread and find a less petty wife Champ!

 

 

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Carlos Batara's comment, January 18, 2014 11:56 PM
I had settlements destroyed because the couple could not reconcile who kept the Wipees, the dog, and the silverware. In each of these matters, the items were not vintage items, so there was no issue of unique market value. The worse, I thought, was the fellow who divorced his wife because she overcooked the turkey on Thanksgiving Day.
Christopher Pearsall's comment, January 19, 2014 8:23 AM
Well, Carlos I can certainly understand where your are coming from. I had other cases over a dog, a children's framed crayon drawing, the failure to shower every day by one of the spouses, putting the dog above the wife, a car part and so many others that I couldn't pick the craziest one. My experience goes against a recent article that a Divorce Coach wrote indicating that most people are logical, rational and capable of resolving their divorces by considering the greater good of the family unit and the integrity of each person. I think you have to stand in our shoes a while before you make sure statements. Thanks +Carlos Batara for your comments.
Carlos Batara's comment, January 19, 2014 8:59 AM
In summary, my hat' is off to you. Clients should be glad there are brave souls like you to help guide them the divorce process. It is a complicated area of law and requires a lot of professional and personal skills, not the least of which is dealing with those who cannot put aside their emotional hurts long enough to shape a rational outcome. Keep sharing.
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'Y&R' star Victoria Rowell and husband are divorcing

'Y&R' star Victoria Rowell and husband are divorcing | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
Collage artist and sculptor Radcliffe Bailey has filed for divorce from Hollywood actress Victoria Rowell, TMZ reported Thursday.
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Another one for the record books of celebrities that are divorcing.  Though they report a few of this star's accomplishments... I don't recall seeing here in anything.  Perhaps I don't get out enough?  Perhaps she isn't well known enough?

 

The story is a bit short and looks more like a publicity story than a news story worth publishing.  One would think a reporter would get to the reason for the breakup if they were THAT big as celebrities. 

 

Yet I've always wondered when you get to be a celebrity.  Do you need 1 fan? 5 fans?  1 soap opera and 1 tv show and 1 movie?  Or do you need to be on one of these things and not get killed off.

 

No matter what I hope these people resolve their family matters civilly when it comes to their divorce.

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Rhode Island Divorce Tips by Attorney Chris Pearsall - Rhode Island Family Courts are Moving to an E-Filing System!

Rhode Island Divorce Tips by Attorney Chris Pearsall - Rhode Island Family Courts are Moving to an E-Filing System! | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
Is Rhode Island Family Court going to Accept Internet Divorce Filings? Find out the basics as plans continue . .
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Just when you think it isn't going to happen, it does!  Rhode Island Family Court is moving forward with technology and divorces may be filed over the internet as early as October of 2014. 

 

Will it be better?  Will it be more confusing?  Will Check out a bit of the information available now. 

 

It's going to be a huge change from paper filings.  Rhode Island is going digital!

 

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More dads demand equal custody rights, reject child-support arrangements of yesterday

More dads demand equal custody rights, reject child-support arrangements of yesterday | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
More men are unwilling to accept archaic visitation and child-support arrangements and are doing what they can to remain in their kids' lives.
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Mothers and Fathers are on equal footing when they are married, so why not when they are divorced or unmarried.  Fathers are all too often relegated to part-time parents and subject to alienation from their children when mothers are given too much authority and deference.  When courts don't reign in the placement parent they do an injustice to the non-custodial parent... make a father's rights unequal and essentially endorse a placement parent's carte blanche control over the children and the situation.  Fathers need to stand up and fight against the traditional apportionment of a father's time with the children regardless of who may be determined to be the "primary care giver" of the children prior to the divorce.  

 

Divorce changes things.  ALL THINGS!  Stripping a father of his right to 50/50 time with his children is wrong.  It is prejudicial and it denies a fathers fundamental rights as a parent.  It will not be until fathers unite and force this issue before the courts to see that it is wrong and violates a father's rights.  Stand strong fathers... if you don't you will always be relegated to being a father only when the mother may allow it.

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Rhode Island Divorce Tips by Attorney Chris Pearsall - Affordability is a Priority for Clients hiring Divorce lawyers but is it a priority for the Attorney?

Rhode Island Divorce Tips by Attorney Chris Pearsall - Affordability is a Priority for Clients hiring Divorce lawyers but is it a priority for the Attorney? | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
One Affordable RI Divorce Lawyer Ponders the Recession and why others in his profession aren't offering more help on a larger scale.
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Today I let my mind wander after hearing attorneys at the courts, perusing Google's top search listings and thinking about how several of those attorneys do business.  I've cared for so long that I don't know how to do anything else, and yet my discontent in what I see around me certainly makes me wonder... perhaps I should have continued to become a Catholic Priest!

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Parents Challenge Reconfirmation Of Family Court Judge - CBS Connecticut

Parents Challenge Reconfirmation Of Family Court Judge - CBS Connecticut | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
A group of parents who've struggled with Connecticut's family court system are hoping a close judicial confirmation vote on Wednesday will send a message to the General Assembly and ultimately spark reforms of a system they argue is unfair to them.
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Parents are looking for family court reform in Connecticut but not necessarily by reforming the law.  Is the law the problem? I don't know, but clearly they perceive that one lawyer is biased in favor of lawyers and literally bankrupts the people in the family court until they can't afford to do anything except to represent themselves.

 

The target?  Parents appeared Wednesday at the state Capitol to urge lawmakers to vote against the reconfirmation of Superior Court Judge Leslie Olear of West Hartford, who serves in the family court system in Hartford, to a second eight-year term.  

 

A judge certainly can be the problem.  The law makers in Connecticut passed the judge's reaffirmation by only 2 votes and now public members who have been through the family court are pressing for a reconsideration of this vote and this judge.  

 

Unlike  the judges in Rhode Island who are appointed for life, these parents have a chance at pressing for reform here, something that is very favorable when the system doesn't seem to be working properly. 

 

If this Judge is causing certain issues in CT then more power to these folks for standing strong and effectuating change where they see their opposition is most needed.

 

Look closely at what Representative Edwin Vargas says in this article about the purpose of the family court and billable hours.

 

Is this judge the only problem.  I think not.  I suspect Vargas needs to go as well otherwise he can pay the fees these people are subject to out of their own pocket.

 

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Child support debt 'extortionate' | Otago Daily Times Online News ...

Child support debt 'extortionate' | Otago Daily Times Online News ... | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
The billions parents owe the Government for penalties on unpaid child support is ''extortionate'', Middlemarch father Ross Smith says.
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Ross Smith tells it like it is.  The article is light on using the terminology "deadbeat dads" but it gets the point across.  This is not the only problem in our country.  There have been scandals nationally about family court child support units being instructed to type in increased figures for child support even though the amounts weren't owed.  Why?  Because the more that it shows the state is trying to collect on the books, the more the state may get in federal subsidies equivalent to the amount on the books.  So why not cook the books, right?  

 

Well, Mr. Smith's tale might as well be accurate for any number of fathers in the USA.  If you get laid off, even if you file a motion for relief from child support you might end up into this deadbeat dad category not by choice but by circumstance.

 

I personally know a father who filed for relief because his business was getting financially killed and it took him 1 1/2 years of delays to get prolonged hearings and now over 2 years later he is still waiting for a decision from the judge.  So what is he supposed to do in the meantime?  Some fathers simply can't do it so they don't pay it.  So what happens then.  Then if the court doesn't grant their motion retroactively to the date the motion was filed, then they not only continue to owe the amount due but they owe 12% interest per annum calculated weekly depending upon how frequently they are paid.  Some dads just love their kids so much that they just max out credit cards to the tune of tens of thousands of dollars in order to keep paying the child support.

 

Yet there is a catch 22 here.  If he continues paying during the time he says he cannot pay then the judge may assume that the father had the money all along.  This is a wrong assumption to be sure.  

 

What else could cause a problem?  What if dad has to charge an attorney on his credit card because he doesn't know what he's doing and needs legal help and doesn't have any money.  What might the judge think?  How can this guy not pay his child support when he can pay to have an attorney with him?  

 

None of these things are valid.  Credit is not income.  Credit just puts you deeper in a hole.  It's not a solution, it's just putting your finger in the hole in the dam to hold the water back momentarily.

 

Retroactive granting of relief from child support is discretionary in Rhode Island and so it's up to the judge.  Why?  Why is it discretionary?  If the guy couldn't pay it then he couldn't pay it if the money wasn't there.  Can a judge deny retroactive relief because a father had access to funds through a credit card?   Yes.  But what if it were the same father and he didn't have a credit card.  Then that father almost certainly wouldn't be required to get a credit card to pay child support.  So what's the difference between the two?  One has a credit card and one doesn't.  What if the guy who doesn't have the credit card could get one and pay his child support that way?  Then both men would have access to some type of resources to pay for child support, right?  So there would be no difference.  Yet by and large a father with a credit card either would pay his child support using the credit card and dig a deeper hole and might be penalized from it because it looks like he had the means to pay it.  Yet the father who doesn't have a card, but could get one based only on his credit rating and not his income doesn't have the same risk or penalty that is likely accessed to the man who does have the credit card.

 

This man has a point.  Sometimes penalties are so ridiculous and interest is so outrageous that just like a credit card if they fall upon hard times and get no relief from the court then the father is left with nothing but the label of a "deadbeat dad" without reason or fault.

 

Amazing isn't it!  I've seen almost everything when it comes to child support and it's a sad situation.

 

I was once called a "deadbeat dad" during a very difficult time when funds were not available.  If I told you my story... you would find it even more incredulous so I'll leave my own personal history out of it.

 

Balance it all when you read these articles.  How did the person get where they are?  If you don't know, don't judge.

 

 

 

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Rhode Island Divorce Tips - Do I file for adultery as fault grounds to get more of the assets in a RI Divorce?

Rhode Island Divorce Tips - Do I file for adultery as fault grounds to get more of the assets in a RI Divorce? | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
Karen finds out about about Terrance finding "another woman" and she wants a divorce. She goes to a lawyer very angry. She is certain she knows she want to file for adultery against him.... but does she? Is that the best thing for her.... or the worst?
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Whoa Now Karen?  Do you know what is what when it comes to divorces?  Check with an experienced Rhode Island Lawyer and he or she just might make things easier for you.

 

Could it be better to use no fault grounds to file for divorce when you suspect your husband has committed adultery?

 

Read the article... Karen came to the right place.

 

 

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Adjusting to Life Financially after a Divorce

Adjusting to Life Financially after a Divorce | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
There's no doubt about it--going through a divorce can be an emotionally trying time.
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When you go through divorce it's best to keep your emotions at bay as much as you can.  I know it's hard.  I've been through divorce myself and it isn't easy because it's tied to a relationship but it's the best thing for you.  Try to keep the relationship separate from what you need to do in the legal aspects of the divorce.  You need to protect yourself and have a cool head to analyze things for the future.  That's what this article is about.  The tips here aren't just good for divorce, they can be good for people who are hitting a financial slump and need to grab the reigns and get fiances and goals back on track.

 

It's a good read.  Practical... but still good!

 

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Forced marriage and the Court of Protection - Marilyn Stowe Blog

Forced marriage and the Court of Protection - Marilyn Stowe Blog | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
The case of YLA v PM and MZ makes for truly grim reading. The judiciary have been far too frequently criticised for actions they have taken in public law cases (that is to say, cases involving the relationship between individuals and the state).
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I've disagreed with this UK Attorney on several of her positions but that's the prerogative of any good person as long as you respect the other person's position.

 

Here I think I'd have to read her book before I'd make up my mind.  The thing is, I'm not really up for a "Grim Read" type of book.

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Kazor.com World Community News » Why Are Baby Boomer Divorces Surging As Overall Divorce Rates Decline?

Kazor.com World Community News » Why Are Baby Boomer Divorces Surging As Overall Divorce Rates Decline? | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
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So, the answer is that the Baby Boomers are disregarding or doing away with tradition?

 

Interesting?

 

My favorite paragraph is this:

 

"Now, Schwartz says, boomers are doing away with tradition again. They are living longer and staying employed later than their parents did. And many regard their 50s and 60s as just as rich in opportunity for love and new experiences as their 20s and 30s were."

 

If my 50s are to be as rich in opportunities for locve and new experiences as my 20s and 30s then I count myself truly blessed for I find myself to be a young man full of vim and vigor and the joyousness of life in merely a body that just doesn't want to bend in the same ways it used to . . . and perhaps with a few pains here and there.

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Grandparents Rights 763-450-1500 Minneapolis Divorce Attorney Grandparents Visitation Rights Custody - YouTube

http://GoldsteinLawyers.net Grandparents Rights Minneapolis Divorce Attorney Grandparents child visitation rights Grandparents custody & raising grandchildre...
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A short video on Grandparent's Rights in a divorce case.  A very good summary of the derivative rights of Grandparents generally in the United States.  Even the attorney being interviewed agrees there is a whole still left in the system and I agree to some extent. 

 

Having seen cases in which Grandparents who are provided rights in  a derivative manner to minor children through their child that have caused negative affects on children, I think the law needs to find a way of determining whether a grandparents involvement will be for or against the proper development and family interaction of the child.

 

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Injured infants taken into custody, parents jailed on neglect complaints - Tulsa World

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Injured infants taken into custody, parents jailed on neglect complaints

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Two 1-month-old infants were taken into protective custody Thursday after hospital personnel found them to have traumatic injuries, police said.

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Taken into Custody for Child Neglect?  I hope these are just first steps.  If . . . (and I do mean IF since we are all presumed innocent until proven guilty). . . more evidence develops that these parents are responsible for causing the skull fractures, etc... and it was not accidental (two kids with similar injuries?) then I hope criminal charges will be forthcoming.  Two one month old children are at the mercy of adults.  If they have eggshell skulls and a parent dropped a child or both children by accident because they are new parents then it might be able to be minimized because there was no intent to hurt the children .  However, if this was in any way intentional, I trust that authorities will do what it takes to make sure the perpetrators get what is coming to them.  Babies outside the womb have rights (to my knowledge) throughout this country and law enforcement agencies need to stand up for these little defenseless ones. 

 

 

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Woman sues solicitors because they 'did not explain that finalising her divorce would terminate her marriage'

Woman sues solicitors because they 'did not explain that finalising her divorce would terminate her marriage' | Divorce and Family Law | Scoop.it
Roman Catholic Jane Mulcahy argued that the lawyers should have clearly explained that a divorce would terminate her marriage.
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No, we don't live in a litigious society!  We live in a world of looney toons! 

 

Just when I thought I'd seen it all this article was commented about on Linkedin.  Questions ran through my head to try to explain away what seems on it's surface to be an absurdity.  How old is the woman?  Has she been sheltered?  What is her level of education?  Is she mentally challenged, handicapped, or learning impaired?  

 

If none of these things apply and there is nothing to explain away, at least in my mind, the lack of comprehension about divorce, then what would cause any person not to know that a divorce by it's definition and even it's typical meaning in society is and probably always has been the termination of a marriage.

 

If anyone runs across anything that could possibly explain this, please let me know.  I understand that some people may be sheltered but could it be that this woman never even heard the word "divorce" before or knew what a "divorce" was?

 

The comments further down in the article about other strange divorces aren't so far out of reality that one can't understand the oddities of some people.  I have even seen a case regarding the issue of the toothpaste tube mentioned in the article.  As strange as it may be, I can still even comprehend that.  But this.... Catholic or not, we are not priests to counsel people on whether they choose to go against the tenets of their own beliefs.  We may respect the manner in which things should be done when the client brings those avenues to light because of their own concerns that they discuss with the lawyer or solicitor, but ultimately the person's / client's decision is their own.

 

If this woman was so "lost" for lack of a better term that she didn't understand what divorce is, then wouldn't it be better to re-marry the man she divorced if both he and she did not want the divorce.  Or might it not have been better rather than blaming the solicitors for her own ignorance on a subject that has been known by even young children to ask the court to nullify the divorce decree.  It is a rarity I agree, but no more so than trying to blame solicitors for something fundamental to the very definition of divorce.

 

If you see it this way Ms. Mulcahey, two wrongs do not make a right!  Nor does the possible availability of a legal separation as a legal mechanism mean that you have actually abided by your religious standards because you have not chosen a legal route which terminates the marriage. 

 

If Ms. Mulcahey believes this to be so, she makes a distinction without a difference yet blames the Solicitors in her case just the same.

 

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Carlos Batara's comment, January 18, 2014 11:56 PM
Huh?
Tova Aronov's curator insight, April 23, 2014 5:27 AM

This article is quite amusing about woman sues solicaitoors because they "did not explain that finalising her divorce would terminate her marriage"

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Divorce Corp. Movie

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More money flows through the family courts, and into the hands of courthouse insiders, than in all other court systems in America combined – over $50 billion a year and growing. Through extensive research and interviews with the nation’s top divorce lawyers, mediators, judges, politicians, litigants and journalists, Divorce Corp. uncovers how children are torn from their homes, unlicensed custody evaluators extort money, and abusive judges play god with people’s lives while enriching their friends. This documentary reveals the family courts as unregulated, extra-constitutional fiefdoms. Rather than assist victims of domestic crimes, these courts often precipitate them. And rather than help parents and children move on, as they are mandated to do, these courts - and their associates - drag out cases for years, sometimes decades, ultimately resulting in a rash of social ills, including home foreclosure, bankruptcy, suicide and violence. Solutions to the crisis are sought out in countries where divorce is handled in a more holistic manner.


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This is scary to say the least!  There is no need for it and I have seen this only on a miniscure scale in the course of my practice as a lawyer but I know that I don't know much of what goes on behind the scenes.  Yet it is things like this that make it difficult on families all over the world.

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