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Mindfulness, Connection and Sustainable Change

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I just came back from busy London where I had the pleasure of following a really interesting mindfulness workshop hosted by Initiatives of Change UK with Rohan Narse, Geoff McDonald, Global VP HR, ...

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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, May 1, 2014 12:58 AM

 A short and to the point article which explains some of the benefits of meditation and mindfulness. Mindfulness is what we take into the world i.e. workplace, schools, learning, etc. and that is where meditation is lived out. We need the quiet space for practice.

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Ways to stop negative thoughts from sabotaging our lives

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Which do you want first: the good news or the bad news?

I guess it’s conventional to share the not-so-good news with you first, so here it goes. I’d like to share a shocking statistic with you about something I read.

The National Science Foundation has recently discovered that we have between 30,000 and 70,000 thoughts in a day, and it has been estimated that the ratio of these thoughts which are negative could be somewhere between 60 to 80 percent.

Of course this figure depends very much on a person’s particular state of mind. I usually consider myself to be a particularly positive person but when I read these statistics, I was staggered.

What on earth are we thinking about?

Now I know that readers of this site are always in favor of tipping the scales towards the positive, so the good news is that there are plenty of ways for us to stay out of the negative thought zone. So without further ado, here are my top three:
1) Don’t Join The Conversation

This first tip sounds like I am suggesting we become somewhat antisocial, but what I am really suggesting is staying away from “toxic conversation content.”

Let me explain.

Have you ever noticed that when people you know get together in groups, the conversation often turns around to things such as bitching about the opposite sex, their job security and how much they hate the government?

Unfortunately, it’s such a common feature of our modern social life that we become oblivious after a while. But it’s funny how the words that other people speak on a regular basis have a tendency to find their way into our consciousness.

We all use conversation to satisfy some subconscious needs including looking for validation of our limiting beliefs, so it’s a good idea to be mindful of the conversations that are happening around us. You may need to distance yourself from some people. This may make you a little unpopular at first, but you’re not doing anyone any favors by joining in.

Offer something positive instead, or ask your friends (in a nice way) why we often choose to share negative news. You’ll find that it’s really only the hard cases that will react badly to your suggestion (and they probably annoy everybody anyway).
2) Re-frame any negative situations

Another way to stop negative thoughts from overtaking you is to use a technique I borrowed from NLP called reframing. It basically means finding a different context for a disappointing experience. Let’s consider the example of a breakup. When something like this happens—sure it’s bad but rather than reveling in the misery of it, we can choose to re-frame it.

Let me tell you something. I had a little breakup recently. Okay, it was only a little one, no drama, but I could have gone to pieces over it. But the way I looked at it was that it gave me time to re-group, get cracking on some of my projects and, most importantly, clear the air for other things to come along.

I always believe that when something like a relationship decides to leave my life, then it is really clearing the air for something better to come along or that I am one step closer to meeting my ideal mate. This process is called re-framing and it’s the best way to nip a negative thought in the bud before it becomes a big issue. Of course sometimes we want to feel sad for a couple of days, and it is okay to go with it, but we should make sure we observe what’s going on inside in order to get a better perspective.
3) Hold onto a positive thought for seventeen seconds

There’s a Law of Attraction guru out there called Esther Hicks who recommends this for being able to manifest things we desire. While I believe this is true, I also think it’s one of the best antidotes to negative thinking there is.

According to her, if you can hold a thought consistently for seventeen seconds, at that seventeen second point, another thought of the same vibrational frequency will join it.

Why?

Because these two thoughts are vibrationally the same and the longer you do this technique, the more positive thoughts you will create and this happens exponentially.

Now that’s quite a claim and if you are like me, you’re probably wondering how on earth they were able to discover this. But is it really important how? I have tried this exercise and I can tell you that when I finally achieved a 17-second thought, I felt supercharged with positive energy, so thinking positively just came naturally after that

So there you have it. Three effective strategies for preventing negative thoughts from sabotaging your life. Of course, there are others such as the Sedona technique, but these three are the ones I have always found to be the most effective.
Oh, and one more piece of advice:

Don’t stress about having a negative thought. It’s normal to think negative thoughts sometimes and that is Okay. You are human. Stressing about having negative thoughts will just lead to guess what? That’s right, more negative thoughts and these ones will be supercharged because stress is a low-energy vibration. Instead, acknowledge them and then try to move into a state of relaxation while you try one of the techniques mentioned above.

These techniques ought to nip those negative thoughts in the bud.


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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, May 4, 2014 12:33 AM

A great place to begin is don't join the conversation.

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What is Open Innovation?

Open innovation, also known as crowdsourcing or co-creation, is a way for companies to harness the ideas and strength of people outside their organization to make improvements to internal processes or products. 


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loichay: 10 levels of intimacy in today’s... | VIZUALIZE

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loichay: 10 levels of intimacy in today’s communication...

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The Fearless Heart: In Defense of Complexity

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When this turned into actually having people waiting for me at the airport, people from the Chinese Nonviolent Communication (NVC) community, I was so excited I could barely wait. Then I met Yin Hua, the person who's been ...

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TED Talk: How to Start an Empathy Revolution | Roman Krznaric

TED Talk: How to Start an Empathy Revolution | Roman Krznaric | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it
My new talk from TEDx Athens has just gone online – How to Start an Empathy Revolution. From human libraries to babies teaching empathy, here are the ingredients for transforming empathy into a force for social change.

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How to Create a 15-Word Strategy Statement that's a Story

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A case study of a swimwear company.

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David Hain's curator insight, April 30, 2014 7:45 AM

What would your change story be?

Kim Zinke (aka Gimli Goose)'s curator insight, May 1, 2014 6:28 AM

Such a simple template that can help provide an outline for your story.


Once upon a time there was (insert a name who exemplifies your target customer/consumer) …. . Every day he/she (insert his/her frustration or job to be done) …. . One day we developed (insert the product/solution and what are actually the 2-3 things we offer or not) … . Until finally (insert the end result for the customer/consumer compared to competition)

Helen Teague's curator insight, May 2, 2014 1:49 PM

love this!

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What Are The Habits Of Mind?

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What Are The Habits Of Mind?

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Kasia Hein-Peters's curator insight, March 18, 2013 8:58 AM

We all are permanent students, so this article is not only relevant for a classroom.

Jay Roth's curator insight, May 24, 2013 4:03 PM

Connect this to Standards for Mathematical Practice

Jay Roth's curator insight, May 24, 2013 4:03 PM

Connect this to Standards for Mathematical Practice

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Leveraging AND “Being with” Nature’s Tensions

Why don’t we figure out how to settle the ongoing feud between sunshine and gravity over water? Sunshine wants to lift water up to the highest place possible. Gravity wants to pull it down to the lowest place possible. Let’s just decide who should win this battle and settle it once and for all.

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Holding the polarities to get her is the answer 

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Jay Roth's curator insight, February 10, 2014 4:47 AM

Article by Barry Johnson on Polarity Thinking. Interested in the Polarity approach in education? contact me

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Using ‘polarity thinking’ to achieve sustainable positive outcomes | Healthcare

Using ‘polarity thinking’ to achieve sustainable positive outcomes | Healthcare | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it
Like yin and yang, polarities are interdependent values that support each other; here’s how this knowledge can be used to improve health care.
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The complete guide to Transmedia Storytelling

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Ali Anani's curator insight, March 29, 2014 5:59 AM

Sttrorytelling is the language that attracts customers

Whitequest's curator insight, March 29, 2014 8:09 AM

Very interesting article

Sónia Laima's curator insight, March 29, 2014 6:48 PM

In a nutshell/ Em poucas palavras

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Audience steps up in next generation of TV storytelling [#Transmedia]

Audience steps up in next generation of TV storytelling [#Transmedia] | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it

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The Digital Rocking Chair's curator insight, April 12, 2014 9:10 AM


Michael Idato:  "As writers and producers exploit technology to find different ways to bring characters and stories to life, audience expectation is re-writing the rules of engagement. The net effect for the TV industry is a drastic shift in the way stories are told" ...

Nicoletta Gay's curator insight, April 12, 2014 11:10 AM

"The audience want a director for the show, they don't want to direct the show," producer Charlie Aspinwall says. "But having access to the director, being able to talk to them, is exciting, demystifying and engaging."

 

Read more: http://www.smh.com.au/entertainment/tv-and-radio/audience-steps-up-in-next-generation-of-tv-storytelling-20140411-36hba.html#ixzz2yfYX7eeT

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Vidtionary: A Video Dictionary

Vidtionary: A Video Dictionary | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it
See and hear the meaning

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Andres Atehortua A.'s curator insight, March 13, 2013 2:37 PM

Watch the videos and repeat the words out loud.

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Ways to stop negative thoughts from sabotaging our lives

Ways to stop negative thoughts from sabotaging our lives | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it

Which do you want first: the good news or the bad news?

I guess it’s conventional to share the not-so-good news with you first, so here it goes. I’d like to share a shocking statistic with you about something I read.

The National Science Foundation has recently discovered that we have between 30,000 and 70,000 thoughts in a day, and it has been estimated that the ratio of these thoughts which are negative could be somewhere between 60 to 80 percent.

Of course this figure depends very much on a person’s particular state of mind. I usually consider myself to be a particularly positive person but when I read these statistics, I was staggered.

What on earth are we thinking about?

Now I know that readers of this site are always in favor of tipping the scales towards the positive, so the good news is that there are plenty of ways for us to stay out of the negative thought zone. So without further ado, here are my top three:
1) Don’t Join The Conversation

This first tip sounds like I am suggesting we become somewhat antisocial, but what I am really suggesting is staying away from “toxic conversation content.”

Let me explain.

Have you ever noticed that when people you know get together in groups, the conversation often turns around to things such as bitching about the opposite sex, their job security and how much they hate the government?

Unfortunately, it’s such a common feature of our modern social life that we become oblivious after a while. But it’s funny how the words that other people speak on a regular basis have a tendency to find their way into our consciousness.

We all use conversation to satisfy some subconscious needs including looking for validation of our limiting beliefs, so it’s a good idea to be mindful of the conversations that are happening around us. You may need to distance yourself from some people. This may make you a little unpopular at first, but you’re not doing anyone any favors by joining in.

Offer something positive instead, or ask your friends (in a nice way) why we often choose to share negative news. You’ll find that it’s really only the hard cases that will react badly to your suggestion (and they probably annoy everybody anyway).
2) Re-frame any negative situations

Another way to stop negative thoughts from overtaking you is to use a technique I borrowed from NLP called reframing. It basically means finding a different context for a disappointing experience. Let’s consider the example of a breakup. When something like this happens—sure it’s bad but rather than reveling in the misery of it, we can choose to re-frame it.

Let me tell you something. I had a little breakup recently. Okay, it was only a little one, no drama, but I could have gone to pieces over it. But the way I looked at it was that it gave me time to re-group, get cracking on some of my projects and, most importantly, clear the air for other things to come along.

I always believe that when something like a relationship decides to leave my life, then it is really clearing the air for something better to come along or that I am one step closer to meeting my ideal mate. This process is called re-framing and it’s the best way to nip a negative thought in the bud before it becomes a big issue. Of course sometimes we want to feel sad for a couple of days, and it is okay to go with it, but we should make sure we observe what’s going on inside in order to get a better perspective.
3) Hold onto a positive thought for seventeen seconds

There’s a Law of Attraction guru out there called Esther Hicks who recommends this for being able to manifest things we desire. While I believe this is true, I also think it’s one of the best antidotes to negative thinking there is.

According to her, if you can hold a thought consistently for seventeen seconds, at that seventeen second point, another thought of the same vibrational frequency will join it.

Why?

Because these two thoughts are vibrationally the same and the longer you do this technique, the more positive thoughts you will create and this happens exponentially.

Now that’s quite a claim and if you are like me, you’re probably wondering how on earth they were able to discover this. But is it really important how? I have tried this exercise and I can tell you that when I finally achieved a 17-second thought, I felt supercharged with positive energy, so thinking positively just came naturally after that

So there you have it. Three effective strategies for preventing negative thoughts from sabotaging your life. Of course, there are others such as the Sedona technique, but these three are the ones I have always found to be the most effective.
Oh, and one more piece of advice:

Don’t stress about having a negative thought. It’s normal to think negative thoughts sometimes and that is Okay. You are human. Stressing about having negative thoughts will just lead to guess what? That’s right, more negative thoughts and these ones will be supercharged because stress is a low-energy vibration. Instead, acknowledge them and then try to move into a state of relaxation while you try one of the techniques mentioned above.

These techniques ought to nip those negative thoughts in the bud.


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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, May 4, 2014 12:33 AM

A great place to begin is don't join the conversation.

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The Culture of Tell: The art of asking instead of telling.

The Culture of Tell: The art of asking instead of telling. | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it

We take it for granted that telling is more valued than asking. 


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David Hain's curator insight, May 7, 2014 5:27 PM

Pull beats push most of the time in managing relationships - seek first to understand!

Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, May 7, 2014 6:07 PM

Asking questions and waiting for answers is incredibly challenging work. Too often, we lose sight of this in the busyness of work. I found it was important to ask, listen, wait, and create spaces for students. It was easy to tell them what good questions were, but modeling it was more important and hard work.

Sandeep Gautam's curator insight, May 27, 2014 3:39 PM

From the article {relevant in the light of the election climate we had recently):

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In presidential pre-election debates we only care who won and often base that decision not on who did the best analysis of the issues but who looked most presidential in front of the cameras and who turned the best phrase or made the most clever put-down. - See more at: http://leadingwithquestions.com/latest-news/the-culture-of-tell/#sthash.ds2ZHLSk.dpuf>>;
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Part 1: Vulnerability, Intimacy, & Spiritual Awakening from Tara Brach

Part 1: Vulnerability, Intimacy, & Spiritual Awakening from Tara Brach | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it
Listen to episodes of Tara Brach on podbay.fm.

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Brenda Bentley's curator insight, March 4, 2014 9:21 AM

Tara Brach on #Vulnerability as a Path to #Authenticity. Good stuff! You can listen to this podcast on any device.

ozziegontang's curator insight, March 4, 2014 9:14 PM

To remember use: VISA: Vulnerability, Intimacy, Spiritual Awakening. Besides listening for most of us it is more beneficial to be in what is hidden in 'Listen."  That is "Silent."  ozzie Mindfulness.com

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Study: More Privilege Means Less Empathy | Mind Matters | Big Think

Study: More Privilege Means Less Empathy | Mind Matters | Big Think | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it
If you're a member of America's anxious middle class, you can feel downtrodden one minute and privileged the next, just watching the news. Here's some super-rich guy planning his run for President, way above you on the social ladder.

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Understanding Empathy - Highly Sensitive and Creative

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By Jenna Avery, CLC, Life Coach for Sensitive Souls As a sensitive soul, you are likely to have a high degree of empathy. Empathy is the ability to feel another person’s emotions as if they are your own.

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Conflict Resolution

Conflict Resolution-http://www.resolutionofconflict.com.au Watch this video to understand how the Conflict Resolution Model works. Consider that conflict at ...

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The Art of Conversation: Timeless, Timely Do’s and Don’ts from 1866

The Art of Conversation: Timeless, Timely Do’s and Don’ts from 1866 | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it
"In disputes upon moral or scientific points, ever let your aim be to come at truth, not to conquer your opponent. So you never shall be at

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Coaching with Compassion Can ‘Light Up’ Human Thoughts | think:blog

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Blog for Case Western Reserve University research magazine, Think

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Polarities in Politics

Polarities Help Us Avoid Our Fears and Get What We Want

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Jay Roth's curator insight, February 10, 2014 4:49 AM

See how polarities exist in the world in which we live.

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A Participatory Documentary, Is It Possible?

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The Digital Rocking Chair's curator insight, April 19, 2014 7:48 PM


Mike Hedge:  "Every summer, deep in the Nevada desert, a temporary city is created by tens of thousands of people. This week-long celebration is known as Burning Man" ...

Minna Kilpeläinen's curator insight, April 4, 9:28 PM
Producer Mike Hedge tells about his team´s huge participatory documentary, As The Dust Settles. Many lessons to learn.
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Documentary filmmaker explores the new visual language of virtual reality

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Stephen Kleckner:  "It’s alluring to see this 360-degree medium as limitless, but this borderless world is not as free of structure as it first appears. Artists face a new set of rules to play by if they intend on creating an intentional, visual, virtual-reality composition."

i-Docs's curator insight, April 10, 2014 11:19 AM

“All we know is that traditional rules of filmmaking no longer apply,” Danfung said. “We’re focused on the technical aspect to begin with as there are still big challenges in the capture, workflow, and playback … but I think the even bigger challenge is the new visual language that is going to emerge.”

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Free Visual Dictionary & Thesaurus | Online Dictionary | Associated Words | Synonyms Dictionary at SnappyWords.com

Free Visual Dictionary & Thesaurus | Online Dictionary | Associated Words | Synonyms Dictionary at SnappyWords.com | Creating new possibilities | Scoop.it
Snappy Words is a free visual English dictionary and thesaurus that lets you search the meaning of words and other associated words.

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