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The Good and Bad of Risking it all Online

The Good and Bad of Risking it all Online | comfortability with online relationships | Scoop.it
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I think that there are ways to utilize social media to cultivate positive relationships, both personal and professional.  When people are looking for love online, they are ultimately bypassing their own reality.  This could end up being something that brings them together, but it also makes them much more vulnerable. 

 

In the article Separating Fact From Fiction: An Examinaiton of Deceptive Self-Presentation in Online Dating Profiles, the author writes that people want to be both personal and open online. "On one hand, they may wish to emphasize their positive attributes and present themselves as appealing. On the other hand, they may feel the need to put forth their true selves, complete with quirks and shortcomings, because ultimately they seek understanding and acceptance from their significant others."

 

We can see from the diagram above, which was created by Author Mike Arauz, the evolution of the online relationship.  It starts just the same as any other online relationship, and develops when both parties feel comfortable.  MTV's Catfish followed people that put time into relationships online, trusting complete strangers.  Most of the relationships ended because the person was so different then the profile they portrayed, but some of them were honest and worked.  The prospect of a positive relationship online is enough for many to keep trying.

 

Some of the articles I read also talked about the personal touch that comes with handling business online.  There are so many people online, that by funneling them down to a client, a positive relationship can be set in stone before a physical meeting even takes place.  Our online reading talks about how information can be inaccurate, but not deceitful.  I think this is okay for the dating scene, as people will budge on their expectations, but not in the professional realm.  If I fudge my numbers or lie about my business, I won't have anything to stand on when I meet a potential client in real life. 

 

Overall, I think people can utilize online relationships in ways that face-to-face interaction cannot.  Through the internet, people are allowed to consider their thoughts before speaking on them.  It really isn't unlike texting, and it is even easier to promote ourselves online.  Many businesses take advantage of this comfort, and it can be the biggest asset to both personal and monetary gain.

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Woman loses money in online love scam

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She fell for his stories and now she's sharing hers in the hopes of keeping you safe from the crooks behind online love scams.
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This is something that I briefly mentioned through our twitter responses this week.  People can build such a relationship through fantasy/online that they will sacrifice common sense.  Mary so badly wanted to connect with this man she met online, that she went into debt for him-and she had never even viewed him before!  Having a friendship behind a keyboard can be comfortable, but a realistic line must be drawn.

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Why Real-Life Relationships are Key to Social Media Success

Why Real-Life Relationships are Key to Social Media Success | comfortability with online relationships | Scoop.it
Don't stop at 140 characters and thumb-ups. Your online relationships should impact your real-world business--for the better.
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I really liked with this piece had to say on meeting face-to-face with somone that's only been connected to you through the internet.  We sometimes cultivate thousands of relationships, to the point where people can become a statistic.  When a personal meeting actually occurs, it makes both parties feel exclusive, as if the rest were weeded out.  This is a great thing for business relationships.

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Social Media and Relationships: 3 Things to Think About Before you Post

Social Media and Relationships: 3 Things to Think About Before you Post | comfortability with online relationships | Scoop.it
3 Things to consider before you post relationship stuff online. Social media and relationships can be a tricky business if you're not careful.
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Not all people that you meet online have your best interests at heart, and more often then not, they aren't someone you can turn to in troubled times.  Some people share too much online too quickly, some will never share much-proceed with caution.

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Ask A Punk: re: Online relationships and virtual sex

Ask A Punk: re: Online relationships and virtual sex | comfortability with online relationships | Scoop.it
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This is a downright scary scenario.  The man that wrote this article has been seeing someone online for six years, yet he is planning on moving in with his real life girlfriend of three years.  You more than likely will only see the good side of someone when you have a relationship that is purely online.  What happens if this guy argues with his real life girlfriend?  Well he can just talk with his online girlfriend.  This couldn't possibly be a healthy situation, and that's not even talking about cheating/jealousy.

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Adding Value Back into Online Relationships

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WHAT IT REALLY TAKES TO BE A ‘FRIEND’ Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born. ~Anais Nin
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This article makes some real good points, one of which sticks out to me in particular.  Online friendships are convenient, but your friends are not just an audience!  We often try so hard to present a positive image, that we get so tied up in promoting ourselves.  I think we all know people through social media that post multiple pictures of themselves daily.  I get it, you like yourself-but you're turning me off to you! 

 

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Relationships at a Distance – Turning Friends and Followers into Real Relationships

Relationships at a Distance – Turning Friends and Followers into Real Relationships | comfortability with online relationships | Scoop.it
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This article highlights one reason why I believe social media can be a great thing.  In this piece, a father aims to connect with his son.  The father regrets that he didn't take the time to get to know him.  Connecting in this fashion is similar to a text-it takes out the uncomfortability of face-to-face interaction, allowing the recipient time to digest the information.

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