My recent missive “How I know I’m not gay” seems to have caused some head scratching. Reader Ms Mahler said… Hm…not to send you back to your 20s angst, but you do realize liking pussy doesn’t stop you from being bi?
The Frisky: How not to exact romantic revenge. YourTango: Could an open relationship be right for you? Nerve: Are sugar daddies just a myth? HuffPo Women: The #1 piece of relationship advice you can stop taking now.
Lesbian and bisexual women risk HPV cervical cancer San Diego Gay & Lesbian News ROCHESTER, N.Y. -- Many lesbian and bisexual women risk their lives unnecessarily. They are not often tested for HPV, the virus that can lead to cervical cancer.
This is paper I wrote on lesbian visibility and eroticism for a class on Renaissance literature and history in 2011. It is very dense– but perhaps still enjoyable.
...What I argue is that this invisibility of female homosexuality is not merely a result of the historical distance from the period, but rather a consciously acknowledged component of the understanding of female same-sex erotic desire at the time. In “Sappho to Philaenis,” the secrecy and immaculateness of the title characters’ sexual activity operates as one of Donne’s central arguments for the superiority of a female-female sexual relationship.
Welcome back to the second part of the sex addiction series! If you remember Sammy from my series Brothels and cheating and sex – Oh my! you should also remember that she and her husband have an open relationship.
After France's first same-sex marriage, and a vote in the UK Parliament which puts England and Wales on course for gay weddings next summer, two US Supreme Court rulings expected soon could hasten the advance of same-sex marriage across the Atlantic. But some gay people remain opposed. Why?
Today we are touring Bada Hutong, an area a half mile square that is just south of Tiananmen Square and was the Chinese capital’s red-light district from the time of the Ming dynasty (1368-1644) until the communists took over in 1949. In its heyday, this warren of lanes housed more than 300 brothels and 700 opium dens.
There were whorehouses to cater for every taste and budget. In the fanciest, fresh-faced girls sang songs, poured tea and entertained men in much the way geishas do in Japan. These women’s bodies were not bought outright; instead, would-be suitors wooed them with gifts over time. For those leaving such places unsated, however, there were also spots where heavily perfumed and thickly made-up street-walkers openly sold sex.
Author Traci Foust describes her bumpy ride getting off and on pharmaceutical drugs, and dealing with mental illness as a child and as a single mother. My mother was 41 when she stopped taking her Lithium.
New Dating Site For Lesbians lesbianseeking.com Brings Women Together Newsday Lesbian friends or even those who have been out of the loop for a time are finding the new dating website at lesbianseeking.com to be a helper in facilitating true love...
The female orgasm Body and Soul Masturbate. Masturbation is a great way to learn about your unique sexual response. Share this insight with your partner, or use your knowledge of your body's arousal patterns to guide yourself when you're with them.
Four decades on, women aren’t just admitting to having fantasies, they’re also writing them down and some are even becoming millionaires as a result. But have their fantasies changed or are we eroticising the same things as our mothers and grandmothers before us? Have the changes in society affected what we think about, and how we use our fantasies? How close is reality to fantasy now that the internet makes all manner of assignations infinitely easier than they were four decades ago? Do we accept our fantasies more now than before, or is there still a stigma about female fantasies? Are we making our dreams come true – or still keeping our real desires to ourselves for fear of being judged?
Cliterati founder, Emily Dubberley, is investigating this in her latest book. If you’d like to add your voice to it, please fill in one of the following surveys (you can skip any questions that you feel uncomfortable about regardless of the survey you choose.) Please elaborate on your fantasies as fully as possible.
You mentioned having a feminist girlfriend which made porn a no-no. Most of us know the history of feminism and pornography — which most people prefer to describe in terms of “feminists say porn bad”. There were actually various distinctions (between porn and erotica, and between feminist thinkers as well), but in your case, you had a feminist girlfriend who actually said porn was a no-no?
5 genius tips to guarantee an Orgasm! Wonder Woman A lot of the time, sex can feel like a (much less dangerous) game of Russian roulette: you take a spin between the sheets, never knowing if it's going to end with a bang.
The first big porn star I interviewed was Veronica Hart around 1982. Very sexy, intelligent gal. This is primarily the 80s I’m talking about now: Vanessa Del Rio seemed the most like a movie star, with real presence. A very nice lady, too, although I only got to know her a little more in the late 90s when I interviewed her three times for a mag called Hot Salsa, as well as Leg Show and Juggs.
In the 80s met lots of the stars: Samantha Fox, Kelly Nichols, Susie Nero, Lisa De Leeuw, Joanna Storm, Cara Lott, Rene Summers, Kay Parker, Juliet Anderson, Christy Canyon, Buffy Davis, Nina Hartley, Ona Zee, Stephanie Rage, Veronica Vera, April West, Amber Lynn, and the guys of course — Jamie Gillis, Paul Thomas, Joey Silvera, Bobby Astyr, John Leslie, Ron Jeremy, Jerry Butler, George Payne...
Americans often think of World War II as the "good war," but historian Mary Louise Roberts says her new book might make our understanding of that conflict "more truthful and more complex." The book, What Soldiers Do: Sex and the American GI in World War II France, tells the story of relations between American men and French women in Normandy and elsewhere.
The Americans were liberators; the French were liberated. But sex created tensions and resentments that were serious, yet were utterly absent from contemporary accounts for American audiences back home. Roberts, who is professor of European history at the University of Wisconsin, Madison, suggests that the tensions weren't entirely accidental: "Sex was fundamental to how the U.S. military framed, fought and won the war in Europe," she writes in her book.
Roberts joins NPR's Robert Siegel to talk about prostitutes in parks and cemeteries, pinups on planes and how the U.S. Army responded to rape accusations with rapid, racially charged trials.
We’ve all seen porn. We’ve all heard rumors about Erol Flynn and Liam Neeson. Grace Slick won’t shut up about Jim Morrison’s show-stopping custard-chucker. There are some truly famous tallywhackers out there. But it’s worth asking - if only just for the hell of it - who’s was the greatest dick of all? Was it John Holmes? John Dillinger? Mini-Me?
Given the historic stigma around making, circulating, and possessing overtly homoerotic images, the visual arts have been especially important for providing a socially sanctioned arena for the depiction of the naked male body. They have even allowed the suggestion of homoerotic desire and physical affection within acceptable cultural and moral boundaries. Even so, much of the history of homoerotic image-making may be characterized by calculated ambiguity, coding, denial, and underground circulation.