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Depression: 10 Fascinating Insights into a Misunderstood Condition

Depression: 10 Fascinating Insights into a Misunderstood Condition | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
Ten insights into a very common and widely misunderstood condition.
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Did you know? Signs, interesting insights  of depression: 

 

1. No specific goals. Like "I want to be happy" vs "I will keep in touch with my family by phoning them once a week".

 

2. Rumination: Depressing thoughts roll around and around in the mind.

 

3. Learning mindfulness as children. It can be  a gift for the rest of his/her life

 

4. Depression blurs memory (e.g. that of places, names)

 

5. Hard to remember the good times

 

6. Depressive realism. Under depression we jdge more realistically our present and future performance

 

7. Accurate time perception... more accurate than at non-depressed people

 

8. Exercise treats depression

 

9. More physical pain is felt under depression

 

10. Thinking style. Depression might be reaction to ordinary, everyday stressors  it depends on how our thinking works.

 

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David Hain's curator insight, November 6, 2013 5:58 AM

#One inFour of us will experience this at some point.  Do not suffer alone!

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6 Ways To Make Your Leadership And Workplace Fun Again

6 Ways To Make Your Leadership And Workplace Fun Again | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
People desire a “leadership refresh” in their organizations.

Via John Thurlbeck, FCMI FRSA, Chery Gegelman, David Hain
Miklos Szilagyi's insight:

Now, that's a tricky area... there are bosses who says straight: "OK, it's work, we pay them, let1s them find fun elsewhere..." Do you think it's so rare? Well, I don't think so... might be that the time is mature not to show this in full scale but that it's there in lots of bosses' mind, you know, I have made already less sure bets, too...

 

1. Allow people to fail, encourage them to test their ideas - one of the most controversial - how many times is it still OK? I understand but come on... even at home,  with your loved family, just try to reframe it...:-)))

2. Build team that last - yes, absolutely, that's may favorite, I have always done that, it's crucial, true... the type of "people are interchangeable" is laughing staff... while of course, they (we) are... but that's another level, please...

3.  Hold no secrets, be a good communicator - yes and know and work on it... try to be as open and transparent as possible (what you are not saying they will found out, and the result might be disastrous because they will not necessarily have a good guess... they might guess much worse than the reality... so, transparency pays...). To be a good communicator might be difficult for some, but a passable level is learnable for anyone... work on it...

4. Be the real you, don't hide behind the title... you know what? Everybody will read you more or less exactly... even when you try to hide... it's a looser game if you try (and how many try it...)... no alternative, I think...

5. Keep people on their toes... as McCormack has written: "110%" (perhaps today his book's title would be "130%" who knows...) Never allow your employees to get complacent... that's important and difficult to keep... tough one...

6. Keep it simple, make it fun... true... for that you should be such a guy who has the right mix of serious and fun.... not many I have met such.... but good luck...:-)))

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John Thurlbeck, FCMI FRSA's curator insight, November 1, 2013 3:59 AM

Some great advice here from Glenn Llopis and he started with a superb one ~ 'Allow people to fail' so as to encourage employees to test their ideas! Definitely!

Chery Gegelman's curator insight, November 3, 2013 1:01 AM

What have you done or experienced that made your workplace fun again?  

David Hain's curator insight, November 3, 2013 4:38 AM

We perform, learn and treat others better when we are having fun.  How much is there in your workplace?

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My employees reviewed me, and I kind of suck. — on management — Medium

My employees reviewed me, and I kind of suck. — on management — Medium | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
I am the CEO at Happy Cog, a digital design studio.

Via Maddie Grant, David Hain
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You know what? It's really a great insight... into the mind of an owner-leader who has grown his business with his partner from nothing to a 33-headcount company... and they are (the two founder) have put themselves after some years of operation on the 360 review list (they didn't thought it as a priority before...). Now, well, it was a surprize when he has started to read teh development areas... not very surprizing but to receive it in your own company in your face, well, you can imagine, don't you?

 

By the way, the usual staff as:

- he can't let go anything

- he makes decision without consulting others (is it his company or not... damn it)

- spends less and less time with people

- gets defensive

- is inconsistent

- handles disappointments poorly

- some scares of him...

 

He has some excuses, of course: new office, it's finally his company, come on..., two little kids at home

 

Reality: he says: "I waited too long" for this 360 degree assessment, he says: "The next several weeks will be course-correcting ones for me, and I plan on doing things much differently in 2014..."

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AlGonzalezinfo's curator insight, November 14, 2013 10:43 AM

I love this post from the CEO at Happy Cog.  His honesty and transparency is something we need so much from the big boss.  

 

Most importantly, his courage in not only being reviewed but to talk about it and why it is importantly!

 

Here is a very good section about his advice to others:

 

Reality: I waited too long.If I can offer any advice to people in my position, it’s please don’t wait to get a candid assessment of what your coworkers think of how you’re steering the ship. Chances are, you’re not as smooth as you think.
Also, only by subjecting yourself to the same processes and protocols you impose on your colleagues will you truly understand how they impact them. You’re not immune.

 

 

AlGonzalezinfo's curator insight, November 14, 2013 11:19 AM

Here is a very good section about his advice to others:

 

Reality: I waited too long.

 

If I can offer any advice to people in my position, it’s please don’t wait to get a candid assessment of what your coworkers think of how you’re steering the ship.

 

Chances are, you’re not as smooth as you think. 


Also, only by subjecting yourself to the same processes and protocols you impose on your colleagues will you truly understand how they impact them. You’re not immune.

 

For the full article, go to:  https://medium.com/on-management/124f242a0352

Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, November 14, 2013 12:46 PM

It works when employees feel they can be honest. We did the same thing several years ago and basically were told not to say anything negative or we would be out of the profession. Sometimes silence says enough. I left my survey blank.

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Dear Email, Maybe It’s Time We Saw Other People

Dear Email, Maybe It’s Time We Saw Other People | Business Coaching | Scoop.it

Dear Email, It isn’t you, it’s me. No, really. You see, this weekend I successfully unplugged for the first time in… in too long, I admit. When I fired things up Monday morning, well… I realized just how codependent we’ve become.


Via David Hain
Miklos Szilagyi's insight:

Yeahhh... I think it's just great... with this e-mail thing we human found out our most sophisticated prison ever fabricated.... how to come back from this that it be only our servant and not our boss? Well, the jury is out...:-)))

 

When the 10 year old ask back: "And?" How about that? Isn't it frightening? 

 

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Authentic Leaders Don't Expect to be Respected

Authentic Leaders Don't Expect to be Respected | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
Yes, you read that title correctly. I've never met an authentic leader who expected respect. Every authentic leader I've ever met knew from the start that any respect they received would have to be...
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Yeah... you know what? Salinger's zen-driven archer comes to my mind: don't aim exactly the middle of the bull's eye in order that you be able to really hit it... Expecting something is something from outside... if it's not coming as naturar as it can be, it doesn't worth it... Good point....-)))

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IQ is the Best Predictor of Leadership Potential

IQ is the Best Predictor of Leadership Potential | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
At the Halogen Software Conference, Dr. Henryk Krajewski said that IQ is the best predictor of leadership potential. He explains why EQ isn’t.
Miklos Szilagyi's insight:

Now, it's shocking, isn't it? So much ado about the EQ leadership that slowly we downgraded the IQ... Now, this interview will not completely change everything back, he just says: both IQ and EQ is important and IQ is better (the best) predictor of leadership potential.... it does not say that a leader without EQ could be successful but it says that the IQ is a necessary though not sufficient factor to make a good leader... with this latter one I can live with...:-)))

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David Hain's curator insight, October 28, 2013 3:10 AM

Interesting, personally I'm an EQ guy.

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The Myers Briggs States of America

The Myers Briggs States of America | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
Northeasterners are neurotic, West Coasters are laid back, and more empirical data on America's psychological geography.

Via David Hain
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What if the Myers-Briggs scale is used to a whole country? In this case to the USA? Is it applicable? Yes, with obvious limitations... for one, it's statistical...

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John Michel's curator insight, October 22, 2013 5:42 AM

Very interesting analysis....


Lumus360's comment, October 23, 2013 11:52 AM
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Lumus360's curator insight, October 23, 2013 12:01 PM

objective of the study, according to the researchers, was to map the "psychological topography of the United States - the result are very interesting as a non-American

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Redefining Workplace Learning For The 21st Century

Redefining Workplace Learning For The 21st Century | Business Coaching | Scoop.it

Disruptive technologies and shifting demographics are redefining the workforce. In response, smart companies are reinventing workplace learning in an effort to make their programs more relevant and effective, and to create a culture that encourages continuous learning and develops innovative leaders at all levels of the organization.


Via Kenneth Mikkelsen, David Hain
Miklos Szilagyi's insight:

Yessss... David, well found...:-))) agree 100%... a definitive part of the blueprint... (if you can speak about "blueprint"... OK, let's speak about "approaches"... it's more antifragile....:-)))

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101 Make Meetings More Efficient… | Yes! And...

101 Make Meetings More Efficient… | Yes! And... | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
Miklos Szilagyi's insight:

John's ideas are very creative... lots of them are also gathered in a book:  http://www.amazon.co.uk/The-Creative-Gorilla-Innovate-Learn/dp/1909623105 ;

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Self-Acceptance: Why it’s More Important than Self-Improvement

Self-Acceptance: Why it’s More Important than Self-Improvement | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
As children our enthusiasm is heightened when we are nurtured and loved; and are not judged by others. As our years progress  however, our eagerness for acceptance seems to outweigh our naturalistic childlike enthusiasm.
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Well said, nothing to add...:-)))

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A model: The basic principles of Solution-Focus in large groups | great gatherings

A model: The basic principles of Solution-Focus in large groups | great gatherings | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
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Beautifully simple method for large groups... or at least it looks like to be...:-))) I have had occasion to participate things what Jesper facilitated, he knows what he is speaking about... of course, the details hide some complications but the structure is a beauty...:-)))

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Mentor or Martyr? Beware the Rescuer Trap

Mentor or Martyr? Beware the Rescuer Trap | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
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Well, true... I especially like the  "serial rescuer"...:-))) LOL...

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She's gone: Woman quits via interpretive dance

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I like the creativity of this one... what a pity that his boss was not able to appreciate it and to enrich their operations with it...

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5 Ways To Beat Burnout - Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement

5 Ways To Beat Burnout - Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self Improvement | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
While burnout is not a medically diagnosable condition, most professionals concur that living with chronic burnout or stress has both short and long term negative consequences
Miklos Szilagyi's insight:

Burnout... it's typically happening with the neighbour and with a friend of my wife... Me?! No way... I'm OK....

 

Well, just read thoroughly the first paragraph and if you still think that you are perfectly OK , even then, some good advises will not harm even to the fittest guy on the world:

 

1. Learn to  say no (especially if you are a girl/woman, for you it might be a special challenge...)

 

2. Make sleep a non-negotiable priority

 

3. Think small... think about small micro-changes, simple meals, exercises, when you're burned out (or too tired...), even a small dose of self-care goes a long way... (also, special attention for ladies about psy self-care in general....)

 

4. Ask for help. Now, it's specially for men, we are not very good at this...

 

5. Learn one or two simple mindfulness techniques. Again, small doses goes a long way....

 

 

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Effective Innovative Ideas for HR

Effective Innovative Ideas for HR | Business Coaching | Scoop.it

Innovation is often spoken about in business meetings, but for the most part the true meaning of innovation in terms of how to apply it is often misunderstood. Understanding the importance of innovation for businesses lies in the foundation of building it through your company starting with your Human Resources department.


Via Peter Verschuere
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What about this? My preferred idea of the 4 shown here is this: "You don't want yet another "Yes" person, you need people who think outside the box and come up with new methods, ideas and solutions to help your company compete. The goal should be  to hire people that do NOT fit the company profile.... The truth is that if you hire people who think like everyone else in the company, the business will soon stop growing..."

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How to Simplify Your Approach to Business Improvement Strategies

How to Simplify Your Approach to Business Improvement Strategies | Business Coaching | Scoop.it

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Well, I've seen/made some business plan in relatively big organizations for 1 to 5 years' scope and I could just confirm that the 50-100+ pages documents were sparingly used... of course, they gave numbers to one of the column "Budget" in the monthly reports but basically that was that...

 

I like this small post + the 4-minutes video, it just made the planning transparent and dynamic... I guess, this one-page-plan is not really for the big organizations with operations in several countries, with HQ, etc. but rather for the smaller businesses... though it's not inventing the wheel, it helps to focus the changing efforts with its simple NOW-WHERE-HOW approach...

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Virginia Satir Video - Pioneer of Family Therapy in a 1985 NLP Keynote, part 2

 Virginia Satir was one of the pioneers of family therapy. She was also a major source of NLP patterns and distinctions.


In her longer afternoon talk, Virginia gave an extensive and comprehensive overview of her ideas about human beings and personal change.

 

These include the difference between the right/wrong model — "shoulds" and "oughts" — and honoring what is real and actual, and the difference between assigned roles and individual identity.

 

The typical up/down, dominance/submission interactions that are so common in troubled relationships are illustrated with tableaus and role-plays to demonstrate how to grow out of them into authentic being.

Virginia goes on to expand on her "seed model" alternative to the static right/wrong model.


Via Mhd.Shadi Khudr, JLAndrianarisoa
Miklos Szilagyi's insight:

Here it is the Part 1:  http://youtu.be/f040d-qJmL8 ...

 

A fantastic  lady...:-))) she is one of the many (with Milton Erickson, Bateson, Watzlawick, Rogers) at the root at the coaching industry... great...  I like thes two videos very much...

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A Culture of Ardent Listening and Transparency – Both to Consumers and to Each Other - TCS Social Business Study

A Culture of Ardent Listening and Transparency – Both to Consumers and to Each Other - TCS Social Business Study | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
Learn how leaders were far more effective at getting top executives to use social media themselves and to understand its potential by ardent listening.

Via David Hain
Miklos Szilagyi's insight:

Well, it's great... so clearly shows the difference between leaders and laggards... Like the wording: "ardent" listening... It would suffice the active listening of Thomas Gordon, wouldn't it...:-))) 

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David Hain's curator insight, October 28, 2013 11:45 AM

Two of the biggest differences between leaders and followers were about how social media is viewed and used at the top of the organization. The leaders were far more effective at getting top executives to use social media themselves and to understand its potential.

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How CEOs Can Transform HR into a Revenue Driver

How CEOs Can Transform HR into a Revenue Driver | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
As I visit with big companies and organizations all over the world, it’s clear that most CEOs realize they need to make some dramatic changes in how they recruit people, align and manage performance,
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Well, how trivial is it? And still how strange it sounds? Who are the people responsible for revenue (and for all other things)? Who is chosing them, assessing them, hiring them, support them with follow-up monitoring, by supplying the necessary development tools, training, mentoring, coaching? The HR... The good HR... The HR which has a real respect and has a word (or more words...) in the corporate life... The HR being worth this respect and trust... The HR which grows up to the tasks... common sense, isn't it?

 

It's all good... what a pity that the main message wanted to be (of this post) to simply sell more Oracle thing... (I've just reread it and it jumped to my eyes...)

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Simple, Direct, Honest, Personal and Blunt: How the 5-word Performance Review Works Wonders | The Art of Doing

Simple, Direct, Honest, Personal and Blunt: How the 5-word Performance Review Works Wonders | The Art of Doing | Business Coaching | Scoop.it

Paul English, cofounder of Kayak, hated some of the performance reviews he got as an employee. So when he became a boss, he decided to do something about it.


Via Bobby Dillard, David Hain
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Did you feel yourself awkward at performance reviews (either as a reviewer or as a reviewee)? One idea is linked to make it simpler and stronger... I'm not saying that's the only new only way we should... but I'm saying that it's interesting to read it and to think over how we are with all these... perhaps we might learn sometthing from it...:-)))

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John Michel's curator insight, October 23, 2013 8:49 AM

An excellent, candid approach to providing feedback. 

Don Cloud's curator insight, October 24, 2013 7:43 AM

Interesting approach to help get to the point when providing performance feedback to your people.

 

Insight, it might be worth trying this technique on yourself ... as a useful tool to self-assess and adjust your own leadership performance.

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What Do You Fail to Notice When You're Hard at Work?

What Do You Fail to Notice When You're Hard at Work? | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
Even experts are susceptible to inattentional blindness.
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Another example about the "invisible gorilla" effect...:-)))

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Count to ten...

Count to ten... | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
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Source (e-mail): 

jules@positive-belief.co.uk

 

It might be useful sometimes (when angry, frustrated, scared) to notice what is happening and breathe... sounds too much common sense? How it is that it's so difficult to practice?! Count to ten... or three?

 

Read it from "jules":

 

"Have you ever noticed how little someone breathes when they get angry, frustrated, scared? Or experienced yourself holding your breath when you get upset or sad? 

 

The ironic thing is that these also tend to be the times when we expect ourselves to come up with intelligent responses to whatever life is throwing at us. But how can we when we are not giving ourselves the elixir of life? Oxygen!

 

Just pause for a moment. Notice how you feel. Notice any tension, other body sensations. Notice your thoughts and emotions, basically how you feel right.

 

Now take three deep breathes in.

 

Check in again after and notice how you feel.

 

One of my stock phrases when working in person with clients is 'Do me a favour and breathe....please.' I may well have just asked them something that has triggered a distant memory or posed a question they have never thought of before. Quite often the response is to hold ones breathe. We can get lost in thought and whilst concentrating, hold our breath. But how does that help them? How does it help you? It's certainly very hard for business when clients stop breathing! :-) 

 

Whenever I notice my breathe or realise that I am uncomfortable about something, I pause and take a big deep breathe in. Right to the bottom of my belly.  I believe it's where phrases like, 'count to ten' come from. They encourage you to pause before you respond and breathe! Now you may not feel comfortable immediately but it does give you a reassurance that you are alive and can handle it. (whatever 'it' may be!) Slowly breathing out reminding yourself again, 'You can handle it"'

 

Think about that for a moment. 

 

Whatever has happened in your life, you have handled it. OK, so you may not have handled it graciously, perfectly or with a great deal of intelligence! ;-)  But handle it you did...otherwise you would not be reading this right now!

 

Take a deep breath in. Relax your shoulders down with each out breath. Fill your belly with oxygen. Just three nice deep breathes. How do you feel? You may feel sleepy, which highlights that the other time you breathe effectively is when you are asleep. You may also feel slightly dizzy or light headed, this too highlights how unusual it is to have so much oxygen in your system. 

 

Just imagine now that you stopped a few times a day to do this. Just stopping for a few moments and taking three deep breathes. What could it add to your day?" 

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Leader and the Wolf - Dave Jensen On Leadership

Leader and the Wolf - Dave Jensen On Leadership | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
What we choose to think determines how we decide to act, thereby defining our results. As a wise elder once related: One evening an old Cherokee leader told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside all people.
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Well, it's short and perhaps more than one knows already about it... it's a good old story and I have put it here for those who are not failiar with it...:-)))

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How to Listen When Your Communication Styles Don’t Match

How to Listen When Your Communication Styles Don’t Match | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
What to do when someone is screaming, venting, explaining, or belaboring.
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Good...:-))) OK, there are some interesting things in it... I do not though subscribe all...:-)))

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SELF-HELPER

SELF-HELPER | Business Coaching | Scoop.it
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Have you problems? (who doesn't have one...) Or do you have difficult experiences? Would you like to write an apology letter or would you like to forgive something to somebody?

 

Before going anywhere, why not spending some time with this small software (it works on 7 languages, including English, German, Dutch, Japanese) and try to find solutions for your situation... Of course, in person, or on Skype with a living helper might be more useful but why not to try this out?

 

This was prepared by a genial, very creative and playful Finnish therapist, coach, solution-focused psychology trainer, Ben Furman... I personally like him, his work, his books very much... - www.benfurman.com 

 

Good luck...:-)))

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