Count to ten...
It might be useful sometimes (when angry, frustrated, scared) to notice what is happening and breathe... sounds too much common sense? How it is that it's so difficult to practice?! Count to ten... or three?
Read it from "jules":
"Have you ever noticed how little someone breathes when they get angry, frustrated, scared? Or experienced yourself holding your breath when you get upset or sad?
The ironic thing is that these also tend to be the times when we expect ourselves to come up with intelligent responses to whatever life is throwing at us. But how can we when we are not giving ourselves the elixir of life? Oxygen!
Just pause for a moment. Notice how you feel. Notice any tension, other body sensations. Notice your thoughts and emotions, basically how you feel right.
Now take three deep breathes in.
Check in again after and notice how you feel.
One of my stock phrases when working in person with clients is 'Do me a favour and breathe....please.' I may well have just asked them something that has triggered a distant memory or posed a question they have never thought of before. Quite often the response is to hold ones breathe. We can get lost in thought and whilst concentrating, hold our breath. But how does that help them? How does it help you? It's certainly very hard for business when clients stop breathing! :-)
Whenever I notice my breathe or realise that I am uncomfortable about something, I pause and take a big deep breathe in. Right to the bottom of my belly. I believe it's where phrases like, 'count to ten' come from. They encourage you to pause before you respond and breathe! Now you may not feel comfortable immediately but it does give you a reassurance that you are alive and can handle it. (whatever 'it' may be!) Slowly breathing out reminding yourself again, 'You can handle it"'
Think about that for a moment.
Whatever has happened in your life, you have handled it. OK, so you may not have handled it graciously, perfectly or with a great deal of intelligence! ;-) But handle it you did...otherwise you would not be reading this right now!
Take a deep breath in. Relax your shoulders down with each out breath. Fill your belly with oxygen. Just three nice deep breathes. How do you feel? You may feel sleepy, which highlights that the other time you breathe effectively is when you are asleep. You may also feel slightly dizzy or light headed, this too highlights how unusual it is to have so much oxygen in your system.
Just imagine now that you stopped a few times a day to do this. Just stopping for a few moments and taking three deep breathes. What could it add to your day?"