Shane Koyczan was bullied a lot when he was a kid. So he took that pain and made this stunning video with the help of some amazingly talented people. It's kind of breathtaking and powerful, just a warning. Also, it has a happy ending.
Despite the school assemblies, the several warnings that are given to the bullies at school and the countless movies that try to get the point across that bullying can be more harmful than most people think, the job is just not getting done. In this era of technology, it's pretty safe to say that it's harder to hide from the bullies than it may have been 20 or 30 years ago. Some kids have to face it not only for seven hours at school, but also every hour beyond that because of the constant contact that can be made via text message or social media.
Bullying, whether it's physical aggression or spreading rumors, boosts the social status and popularity of middle school students, according to a new UCLA psychology study that has implications for programs aimed at combatting school bullying.
Ulla M. Saikku's insight:
"The ones who are cool bully more, and the ones who bully more are seen as cool," said Jaana Juvonen, a UCLA professor of psychology and lead author of the study. "What was particularly interesting was that the form of aggression, whether highly visible and clearly confrontational or not, did not matter. Pushing or shoving and gossiping worked the same for boys and girls.
I'm struggling to stay in this world, because everything just touches me so deeply. I'm not doing this for attention. I'm doing this to be an inspiration and to show that I can be strong. I did things to myself to make pain go away, because I'd rather hurt myself then someone else. Haters are haters but please don't hate, although im sure I'll get them....
Identifying, Intervening, Surviving, and Preventing Bullying – A Series: Bullying Prevention Programs and Resources
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It is the parents' job to help their children learn how to deal with difficulties in life.
...Because they are exposed to and observe high-conflict adults, children and youth of all ages model destructive behaviors at school. Parents are role models for their children and abusive behavior can be inter-generational. This direct link to bullying increases the pressure for separating parents to learn ways to reduce conflict in their interactions with each other.
If you are a separating parent who learns your child is bullying at school, here are some specific tips to help you remedy the situation: If your separation includes high levels of conflict with the other parent, find ways to reduce the conflict.
Help your child learn productive ways to express anger.
Clarify that even though the family is going through a lot of changes, you will not tolerate bullying or mean-spirited behavior of any kind. Believe it or not, children of all ages find security in clearly set limits.
Stay actively involved in your child's school activities.
Carol Fredrickson shares how to talk with your child about bullying
When your child comes to you saying that they have been the victim of bullying, remain calm. Fight the urge to jump into action and contain your anger. Listen and be fully engaged with your child and their story. Don’t interrupt or offer your opinion. Once they have finished ask them open ended questions that may help fill in any missing details.
It is imperative that you get a hold of your emotions before jumping in to fix the situation. We must model appropriate behavior for our children.
Three things that you can do regarding bullying:
1. Take bullying seriously. This is not a phase that your child is going through. Offer support to your child whether they are 6 or 16. This may be the most difficult issue that they have ever dealt with.
2. Consider enrolling your child into a martial arts program or a self-defense class. No, I am not suggesting that they learn to beat up the bully, but martial arts can build confidence in a child. Bullies rarely pick on a confident child – they almost always choose someone who is vulnerable or lacks confidence.
3. Teach your child how to respond to a bully. Teach them what they CAN do in order to give them back some power. They need confidence, assurance and direction.
Psychologists, not to mention parents, have long observed that kids who seem depressed tend to have trouble getting along with -- and being accepted by -- their peers.
What the experts haven't been able to agree on is which comes first, the depression or the social difficulty. Most researchers have supposed that kids who are excluded or bullied become depressed as a result (rather than vice versa), while others have suggested that the two problems go hand in hand and are all but impossible to tease apart. A new study, published this week in the journal "Child Development," provides some of the strongest evidence to date for a third theory: Kids who cry easily, express negative emotions, and show other signs of depression ultimately suffer socially because they are shunned by their peers and attract the attention of bullies.
After a viral video of her being antagonized by a group of middle schoolers sparked an outpouring of support from more than 32,000 online strangers, Karen Klein is using some of the $700,000 in donations to launch an anti-bullying foundation, KSDK reports.
She told WROC she plans to put $75,000 toward the Karen Klein Anti-Bullying Foundation
“We’re hoping to get other people to put money in it, and this is going to be for education for people that have been bullied, for people that just — for people that need it for this situation,” she said.
When it comes to bullying, the bystander is not innocent. In fact, anti-bullying bystanders who adopt a “cruel’s not cool” mentality can make the biggest impact of all. Think about it. If a bully is shamed by his peers for the names he calls his victim(s) at school or if she is chastised for the false rumors she spreads on Facebook about her victim(s), why would they continue to behave this way? Removing any social stock that a bully feels they obtain via bullying can go a long way to neutralizing this behavior.
The goal is to create a zero-tolerance environment at school. To do that, schools must teach children that reporting a bullying incident is different from tattling—that it’s crucial for them to speak up when they are bullied, or when they witness someone else being bullied.
“Parents need to understand that the solution to bullying is with the parents,” Leventhal says. “When parents talk to their kids about this, they need to talk about how they as adults can protect the kids.” Leventhal says parents must create an environment where their children feel comfortable telling them about the bullying. If children don’t trust their parents and think their parents will make things worse—perhaps by calling the bully’s parents or talking to the bully themselves—children will be much less likely to tell their parents.
Finding someone who can help is essential for kids who are bullied, because it brings them to the conclusion that they are not responsible for the bullying, says Bill Belsey, founder of bullying.org. This understanding helps children develop the self-confidence necessary to stand up to a bully.
Victims of bullying at school, and bullies themselves, are more likely to experience psychiatric problems in childhood, studies have shown. Now researchers have found that elevated risk of psychiatric trouble extends into adulthood, sometimes even a decade after the intimidation has ended.
The new study, published in the journal JAMA Psychiatry on Wednesday, is the most comprehensive effort to date to establish the long-term consequences of childhood bullying, experts said.
Authorities in central Ohio are investigating the apparent suicide of an 11-year-old girl whose parents say she was bullied.
London police Chief David Wiseman says the girl hanged herself overnight in her bedroom.He says the girl had been bullied before, and police are investigating all angles of her death, including whether she had recently been harassed.
Her parents told reporters Hailey wore thick glasses, had attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and was teased by other youngsters outside of school.
Dr. Michele Borba share her secrets for discipline problems, behavior troubles, school issues and much more! Parenting advice, tips, and articles for raising happy, healthy children from conception to graduation.
Your first step is to determine why your child is using this behavior. What might be triggering your child’s behavior?
Here are a few of the top reasons why kids bully. Could any apply to your child? Think through each item carefully. What is your best guess as to why your child is using aggressive behaviors? There may be another reason beyond this list which you can add to the end. Read:http://www.micheleborba.com/blog/2012/09/25/why-is-my-kid-bullying/ ;
A Michigan community is trying to make things right after a 16-year-old girl was named to a high school homecoming court as part of an apparent prank. Whitney Kropp told WNEM-TV she felt betrayed after some of her classmates at West Branch's Ogemaw Heights High School suggested that her selection announced this month at the 800-student school was a joke. She said she had been picked on in the past, but it intensified afterward. "I thought I wasn't worthy at Ogemaw Heights at all," she said. As word spread, however, community members rallied behind the sophomore. She's expected appear at Friday's homecoming football game. And The Detroit News reports businesses will buy her dinner, take her photo, fix her hair and nails, and dress her in a gown, shoes and a tiara for Saturday's dance...
Julie Hertzog, the director of the Pacer National Bullying Prevention Center:
Today, it’s not quite as simple as that. Casting the bully as a physically intimidating outcast isn’t necessarily accurate, Hertzog said.
“There is no particular profile,” she said. “It used to be that people thought that kids who bullied had very low self-esteem, but we’ve found just the opposite to be true. A lot of times they are social leaders.”
55% of lesbian, gay and bisexual young people experience homophobic bullying at school http://t.co/AtcjY69y...
The teenage years are a challenging time for many young people. But for those who think they might be gay, lesbian or bisexual, it can be even more bewildering. According to a new study published on Tuesday by the gay equality organisation Stonewall, 55% of lesbian, gay and bisexual young people experience homophobic bullying at school; 96% say they hear words like "poof" or "lezza" in the classroom, something that can be "hugely damaging" to children who are trying to come to terms with their sexuality, says the charity's chief executive, Ben Summerskill.
As documentary filmmaker Lee Hirsch discovered, the travails of a tormented child can be an examination far more terrifying than anything faced in the workaday life of an adult.
“A group of five or six guys pulled me into a bathroom, where they had run the showers and hot water to make it steam up,” Hirsch recalls.
“They were acting out like they were taking me to a gas chamber and beat me up in there. It was absolutely terrifying.”
Hirsch had blocked out the incident, which took place at his high school in Long Island, until someone posted about it on his Facebook page. He was 15 at the time.
Twenty-five years later and Hirsch is a celebrated filmmaker, but the title he is most proud of is champion of the downtrodden.
His documentary Bully, which follows five children from America who are persecuted relentlessly at school, has become a global phenomenon and has put the topic of bullying firmly back on the agenda in the US.
“I was bullied through middle school, elementary school and it’s something you carry,” says Hirsch.
Danielle talks about her past with bullying, and why that worries her about her son starting kindergarten.
My oldest son heads to kindergarten in the first week of September. Which as a mother, brings me a whole new plethora of fear and anxiety. Especially considering for my first roughly eight years in public school I was picked on and bullied.
Yup, I was the little girl that was bullied by my classmates. Hell I still am bullied today, but that is just a whole other story in itself. If it wasn’t about my clothes from Bradlee’s, it was about my payless shoes. When the clothes were no longer an issue, it was my braces. When my braces weren’t an issue anymore it was the people I chose to hang around with. No matter what I couldn’t win until I somehow ended up hanging with the “cool” high school kids when I was in 8th grade.
Nearly one third of all students aged 12-18 are bullied at some point in their educational career, according to the National Center for Education Statistics.
With so many students experiencing bullying, parents need to know how to protect and equip their children. Also on the rise in schools, sexual harassment is thought to have a greater negative impact on victims than bullying, making informed parents vital to their children’s protection against sexual harassment.
Why Victims May Not Report Abuse Unfortunately, many victims of bullying do not report the abuse they undergo, because they fear it will only worsen if the bully finds out the victim told someone. Many victims might not report abuse, because they feel it is in some way their fault. Especially with sexual harassment abuse, students may feel deep shame over what has happened, and therefore will be unlikely to bring it up with a parent. Since children may not tell parents if they are the victims of bullying or sexual harassment, it is crucial that parents are able to recognize the signs of bullying and sexual harassment.
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