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Why Spanking is an Ineffective form of Discipline | The Visible Parent

Why Spanking is an Ineffective form of Discipline | The Visible Parent | How To Prevent Bullying | Scoop.it
The ongoing debate about spanking heated up again this week, as this topic continues to capture the interest of the media and parents.  I do not judge the

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This is a must read article that spells out 10 reasons why spanking is ineffective.  Many of the reasons are backed up with the research looking both retrospectively and prospectively as child development.

 

Spanking may be thousands of years old but we have to ask ourselves why spanking ever was.  One reason was that many people in the past didn't see children as being any more capable than animals so spanking was considered a form of training. Another was that parents had many real and immediate fears of their child being injured or dying because of the harsh worlds they lived in and wanted to impress upon their children the immediate consequences of not following the rules and rituals which had kept their families and tribes safe from predators.

 

Some people may argue that  we still live in dangerous times, which we do, but spanking doesn't help our children learn how to stay safe and survive. Our predators now are people and germs, not animals.  They need to be taught how to think, analyze, and plan accordingly.  This requires more sitting down with our children to walk through why they chose one path of action over another and how the outcomes would differ.

 

It is time that we, the adults, stop and think about why we approach children in the way we do.  Is it because "we've always done it this way," or "It is how my parents raised me." Well  times have changed and we need to change to make sure we are preparing our children to survive and thrive in today's world.

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U.S. School Violence Fast Facts

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Here is a list of incidents of random elementary, middle and high school (excludes colleges and universities) violence with fatalities, from 1927 to the present. This list does NOT include suicides, gang related incidents, or deaths resulting from interpersonal conflicts.
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TODAY: Is public shaming on social media acceptable?

TODAY: Is public shaming on social media acceptable? | How To Prevent Bullying | Scoop.it
Video on Today: The court of public opinion online has grown very large, and bad behavior caught on camera can go viral quickly. But is does such vigilante behavior-monitoring really make people behave better? NBC’s Stephanie Gosk reports and Anna Post of the Emily Post Institute discusses the phenomenon.
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No, it's not acceptable, no more than putting people in the town common in stocks and pillories.

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Does "Children Do As I Say" Reduce Bullying in Youth? -

Does "Children Do As I Say" Reduce Bullying in Youth? - | How To Prevent Bullying | Scoop.it
Reduce bullying by choosing to be a positive, self-aware role-model that encourages attitudes that accept differences in others.
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Should children do as we say and not as we do?

We, adults – parents, teachers, role-models, etc. are responsible for role-modeling peaceful behavior for children. Modeling appropriate behavior is a vital and necessary component of effective conflict education.

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Kids with Food Allergies are Often Targets of Bullying

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Real cases of children w/ food allergies having peanut butter rubbed on their arms is a sobering wake-up call. What’s to be done in response to food bullies
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This is beyond frightening. Take note as to possible solutions.

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School resource officers and the quest for safer schools - PBS

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JOHN LARSON: And now, back to school safety. In the year since the Newtown massacre, the national focus has been on gun laws and mental health programs.
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Link made between cyberbullying and teen suicides often overshadows mental health issues: experts

Link made between cyberbullying and teen suicides often overshadows mental health issues: experts | How To Prevent Bullying | Scoop.it
As the issue of cyberbullying increasingly receives more and more attention, experts warn that linking cyberbullying and teen suicide oversimplifies the issue, as more complex sets of mental health issues are usually at play in many cases.
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Do you feel these words ring true? "When journalists ... imply that teenage suicides are directly caused by bullying, we reinforce a false narrative that has no scientific support," she wrote. "In doing so, we miss opportunities to educate the public about the things we could be doing to reduce both bullying and suicide."

 People like to be able to define an issue in simple terms, blaming one thing, hoping for the golden nugget - the answer - the simple solution. How do we address bullying, suicide and mental illness and  maintain focus when the issue is deeply complex and there are no simple answers?

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Do you feel these words ring true? "When journalists ... imply that teenage suicides are directly caused by bullying, we reinforce a false narrative that has no scientific support," she wrote. "In doing so, we miss opportunities to educate the public about the things we could be doing to reduce both bullying and suicide."

 People like to be able to define an issue in simple terms, blaming one thing, hoping for the golden nugget - the answer - the simple solution. How do we address bullying, suicide and mental illness and  maintain focus when the issue is deeply complex and there are no simple answers?
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The Only Thing More Expensive Than Kids Is Kids Who Are Bullies

The Only Thing More Expensive Than Kids Is Kids Who Are Bullies | How To Prevent Bullying | Scoop.it

It almost sounds like a fake news story.

In Monona, Wisconsin, parents can now be ticketed by police and fined in municipal court if their children repeatedly bully others.

Some bullying experts are praising the move.

“Today’s bullying is literally a matter of life and death,

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What do you think of fining bullying? Fascinating concept. Will it make a difference?

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10 Communication Secrets of Great Leaders

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It is simply impossible to become a great leader without being a great communicator. I hope you noticed the previous sentence didn't refer to being a great talker - big difference.

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A great way to better your presentation and communication skills is to watch, listen to and read other great communicators!

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Lauran Star's curator insight, April 29, 2013 7:08 PM

A great read on communication - even if it focuses on male communication - women can get a bit from it!

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A great way to better your presentation and communication skills is to watch, listen to and read other great communicators!

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Sarcasm is Bullying | Verbal Abuse | Words Hurt!!!

Sarcasm is Bullying | Verbal Abuse | Words Hurt!!! | How To Prevent Bullying | Scoop.it
Bully for you! This oxymoron of a phrase when stated has a tone of sarcasm attached giving meaning of being negatively congratulated or cheered on with an accompanied smirk. What makes people respond in this way?
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We've been conditioned by the media to believe sarcasm is acceptable and "normal". We need to rethink that belief. Occasional non-hurtful humor - OK.  Continuous method of communication in the home or workplace - unacceptable. Use in school as a form of discipline? Completely unacceptable. Rethink sarcasm.

 

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SARCASM IN RELATIONSHIPS

Sarcasm is a large component of social interaction and conversation.  To demonstrate a sense of humor, people frequently use sarcasm as a means of “breaking the ice” during initial encounters with others.  People also use sarcasm as a means of being comedic with groups of friends.  They say something contrary to what they feel and/or believe for the purpose of being funny.  Sarcasm, in these instances, seems harmless and playful.  But is it really? 

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I'm would be one of the females in the study that does not appreciate sarcasm. Including sarcasm in relationships can quietly undermin and destroy the relationship over time.

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Napa Students Now Have New Anti-Bullying Tip Line - Patch.com

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Napa Students Now Have New Anti-Bullying Tip Line
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“Within the past few weeks NPD has received at least 10 tips related to bullying and other safety issues that have been investigated or are in process," said Napa Police Lt.
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pearsoned.com: Make Your Move. The Shift is On.

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Participate in this webinar series to “Unlock the Common Core State Standards”. Learn what the Standards mean and how to implement them.
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add your insight...Free Webinars on the Common Core State Standards

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José vs Joe: Who Gets A Job? - YouTube

How much does your name really matter when applying for jobs? Like BuzzFeedVideo on Facebook: http://on.fb.me/18yCF0b Music: “Every Damn Night” by Warner Cha...
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So often, we are blind to our bias, our conditioning, our subconscious behavior. That blindness deeply affects the path our lives take. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PR7SG2C7IVU

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Gossip: Realize that the Gossiper will Gossip About You, Too -

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Gossiper will Gossip About You - If you gossip to me, chances are you gossip about me, too.
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Public shaming goes viral | Video | 6abc.com

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Public shaming goes viral
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This is BULLYING! The long term effects of this practice are measurable. Online is FOREVER! Why do we think this is any different than putting people in stocks and pillories for public display?

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What will it take to protect our children from cyber bullying?

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We Another teenage life has been lost due to cyber bullying. Hannah Smith, 14, from Lutterworth, Leicestershire was found hanged in her home on Friday 2nd August 2013 after having received abusive messages, such as ‘drink bleach’ and ‘go die’ on popular social media site Ask.fm. Hannah, who was a member of the Latvia-based website, was found in her bedroom by her 16 year old sister after being subjected to cruel taunts through the social media site.

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We need to find viable solutions. What do you think can be done that will truly make a difference?

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Motivate Your Students By Helping Them Own Their Behavior -

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Motivate Your Students By Helping Them Own Their Behavior
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We live in a culture of blame. Everything is someone else’s fault. This idea is reinforced by television, media, and what we see in the news. Frivolous lawsuits, high insurance rates; everything is someone else’s fault. One of the things that kids struggle with is taking ownership for their own behavior.

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“We Can't Arrest Our Way To Safer Schools”: The Need For ...

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Hard cases make bad laws. Policymakers' overly punitive and police-centric response to high profile school shootings demonstrate this fact. But if you have doubts, ask the six-year-old child who was handcuffed to a chair as ...
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Zero tolerance rules and policies with mandatory penalties take common sense out of the equation.

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Breaking the cycle of racism

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by Nancy Vogl

Recently, I made an unlikely friend in Traverse City: Rod Nyland, former employee of Hampel’s Guns.For anyone who knows me, and the message I’m dedicated to sharing, Rod is just about the last person in this town I might be friendly with. Rod is credited with hanging the American flag inverted in front of Hampel’s the day after Barack Obama was elected, and for making a
racial slur against our next president.I can’t remember how old I was when I instinctively knew it was wrong to ...

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Powerful, thought provoking article that reinforces the importance of looking deeper for understanding and the healing of forgiveness.

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Powerful, thought provoking article that reinforces the importance of looking deeper for understanding and the healing of forgiveness.

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Bully Punished With Bad Clothing. Unusual Yes, But Cruel?

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Shaming misbehaved children is hardly news and there's no shortage of parents who turn to social media to post embarrassing photos of their kids or have them stand in the street holding handwritten signs apologizing for bad behavior. But where's the line between a parent airing their family dirty laundry and being inappropriate?

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I'm really worried that this public shaming trend by parents is getting so much publicity and approval by the masses that it's becoming more and more prevalent. It's not the way to discipline children. Why is it any different than putting adults in stocks in a public park for all to view and ridicule as punishment? if we were to suggest punishing adults that way for the same behaviors that kids are being shamed for, there would be a massive uproar in society. I learned how to parent by reading parenting books, attending workshops, taking courses and using authoritative discipline. I'm not a perfect parent, by any means, however, I can sleep knowing my children won't have the scars that abuse and humiliation leave on their spirit. Those scars last a lifetime.

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Personal Matters: The devastating effects of sarcasm

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You are waiting for your spouse and she's late.You glance angrily at your watch as the starting time for the mov
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I can't say this better than Susan Britt, "An important part of being a successful person at home and at work is the ability to communicate assertively and effectively. Refuse to use the verbal weapon of sarcasm to get what you want."

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The Science of Sarcasm? Yeah, Right

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How do humans separate sarcasm from sincerity? Research on the subject is leading to insights about how the mind works. Really
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This article almost makes sarcasm seem like a positive thing. I strongly disagree. Possibly, if used carefully with no intention to hurt, or no possibility of hurting others, it can be a  positive "brain exercise" as this article states. Personally, I think it's like playing with fire.

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The Damaging Effects of Sarcasm | Little Things Matter

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As I went about my normal routines the past few weeks, I listened closely for some attention-grabbing examples of sarcasm to include in today’s lesson. I was dismayed at the amount of sarcasm I heard.
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I have been saying this for years: "Television sitcoms are loaded with sarcastic remarks and, of course, the viewers laugh at the embarrassment the recipient shows.  Don’t be fooled that these are merely clever sayings from quick-witted individuals. Television writers think they are entertaining the audience, but they are really setting an example for viewers to follow. Our children grow up believing this is socially acceptable." We wonder why there is so much disrespect and meanness in our society. Just look to the  media conditioning that is shaping our youth AND our own thinking. What our brain is frequently exposed to begins to be our "normal" and expected behavior.

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Martial Arts and the Awakening of a Public School Teacher | Cogent Catalyst Publications

Martial Arts and the Awakening of a Public School Teacher | Cogent Catalyst Publications | How To Prevent Bullying | Scoop.it

Do you struggle to understand what it is like for someone who learns differently? Whether that person is a youth or adult, it is sometimes difficult to walk in their shoes. Well, I had that opportunity and tell the story in my new eBook Martial Arts and the Awakening of a Public School Teacher. Available only in eBook format, for Kindle or Nook.

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Susan Gingras Fitzell's curator insight, March 16, 2013 12:12 PM

Not being very coordinated or athletic, my martial arts practice put me in the shoes of students who struggle in school in a way that hits home on a very personal level.