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10 Tips For Dealing With Bullies At Work

10 Tips For Dealing With Bullies At Work | Bullying | Scoop.it
How do you know whether you're being bullied, or simply dealing with a difficult boss or co-worker?
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Bullying exists in all environments and in all phases of life. This article helps identify and cope with workplace bullying:

"The clearest sign is that bullying is something that happens again and again -- it's not just your boss having a bad day every once and a while.

The abuse can include yelling; intimidating or humiliating behavior, like angry criticism and personal insults; or sabotage, whether it's vicious gossip or taking credit for someone else's work."

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The Meanest Word At Preschool

The Meanest Word At Preschool | Bullying | Scoop.it
They are watching us. They are watching us be cruel to each other. They are watching us speak poorly of our friends, and of ourselves. They are translating our anger into words like "stupid" and "loser," and they are lashing ou...
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:

Name calling starts early - children are imitating and are beginning to learn about the power of words and the power of their own feelings.  Limit setting, comforting, teaching empathy by showing it and imagining other people's feelings, and being good role models help young children begin to navigate this unfortunate experience.

 

From the article:  "I am here. "I'm always here," I whispered back. "You carry Mommy and Daddy and Ben in your heart every day. You are my best friend, and my kind boy, and I love you." I watched as his breath grew even, and the soft puffs of air escaped his pouted lips. I want him to know a world where no one feels like a "loser." Where "dumb" and "stupid" don't define children who learn differently, and our friends grow up to appreciate that there is something special in our challenges. Something useful. Something that we all need. I will teach him to be kind, and encourage him to see past words that hurt. I will arm him with strength, and resilience, and try to protect him from internalizing the pain of the world. And perhaps I will work on my aim."

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Exposed | Teaching Tolerance

Exposed | Teaching Tolerance | Bullying | Scoop.it
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The atrocious art of cyber-bullying is constantly evolving...  This article details current underground ways cyber-bullying is being perpetuated and harming all involved.  For parents, teachers, anyone  - stay informed!

 

One in 10 junior high and high school students has had embarrassing or damaging photos taken of them without their permission. An equal number reported feeling “threatened, embarrassed, or uncomfortable” by a photo taken of them, specifically a photo taken with a cellphone camera. An MTV-AP study on digital abuse reports 39 percent of teenagers engage in sexting, including video, images and text. And one in five students has sent sexually suggestive or nude photos of themselves to others, reports the Cyber Research Bullying Center."

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You Raise your Children; I Will Teach them French: Rosalind Wiseman at TEDxTeachersCollege - YouTube

In this talk, Rosalind Wiseman addresses the complex problem of bullying in schools, and how administrators and parents need to support kids to make schools ...
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Rosalind Wiseman, a prominent authority on bullying, approaches the complex social dynamics that often unintentionally perpetuates bullying by starting to talk compassionately about teacher burnout. 

 

She talks about teachers, administrators and parents reaching passed the disconnects to let children know they are cared about and seen and that bullying can identified and will be addressed in school settings.

 

Great TED talk!

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Cyberbullying: there is a way out! - YouTube

Children have the right to be protected from being hurt and mistreated, physically or mentally, they have a right to privacy. We all share a collective respo...
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Here is a nice animated piece about cyberbullying.  Empower yourself to identify and protect yourself against cyberbullying!

There are a lot of good resources on deletecyberbullying's site:  http://deletecyberbullying.eu/

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There's Something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men

There's Something Absolutely Wrong With What We Do To Boys Before They Grow Into Men | Bullying | Scoop.it
How three words make a devastating impact in the lives of little boys.
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:

We have a choice in how to teach boys to be connected to themselves and others in loving and compassionate ways.  The words "BE A MAN" are diminishing and pressure a boy to turn off so much of who he is and usually act in a limited "macho" way that ultimately dehumanizes who he is in his entire lifetime.  Watch this and encourage boys you know to be whole emotional, caring individuals.  Peace,  Lisa

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INFOGRAPHIC: How Could This Happen To 28% Of Kids On Our Watch?

INFOGRAPHIC: How Could This Happen To 28% Of Kids On Our Watch? | Bullying | Scoop.it
What bullies and the bullied have in common.
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Here is a great infographic chart to inform about bullying.

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Is Your Kid Mean?

Is Your Kid Mean? | Bullying | Scoop.it
Five ways to raise kind and compassionate kids.
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We all have the capacity to act in a mean way.  It is part of our human nature, for good or for worse.  To be able to recognize it and own it, while continuing to have compassion/understanding for ourselves, is an opportunity for self awareness and self-growth. 

 

Admitting that your good child is acting "mean", opens the door for so many learning opportunities.  Here is supportive and helpful advice.

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High School Football Coach Suspends ENTIRE Team For A Good Reason

High School Football Coach Suspends ENTIRE Team For A Good Reason | Bullying | Scoop.it
This high school football coach does not tolerate bullying or attitude problems, and he recently showed players in a major way.
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 This high school coach suspended his team for poor conduct and cyberbullying. I think this is an important story, and shows the coach's caring for the character and wellbeing for all students involved. What a great role model!

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Bullying: When the School Is the Bystander

Bullying: When the School Is the Bystander | Bullying | Scoop.it
Rita-Clare LeBlanc had reached the darkest moment of her young life. The months of bullying at her high school had taken a toll and she decided to end her life and become yet another statistic of Nova Scotia's abysmal bullying record.
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:
When it comes to bullying, schools/adult authorities need to respond with clear and real consequences and take charge of the situation - the target needs to be assured of his/her safety. Often schools treat bullying as a peer misunderstand...ing and use peer mediation or restorative justice - this can make things much worse when real bullying is happening. Read this article  to understand this frequent mistake made by adult authorities.
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Ivon Prefontaine's curator insight, April 16, 1:45 PM

An unstated challenge is there is adult bullying going on in schools. Those are the role modes provided for the young. It does not make it right for students to bully, but, in dealing with student bullying, the adults would have to work on their behaviours and be exposed.

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His Classmates Thought Making Fun Of Him Made Perfect Sense, But Then A Senseless Thing Happened

His Classmates Thought Making Fun Of Him Made Perfect Sense, But Then A Senseless Thing Happened | Bullying | Scoop.it
What a story.
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:

Music video created by the artist from his own experiences - well produced and deeply touching.

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{ u n t i t l e d } pt. 1

Based on true events, { u n t i t l e d } pt. 1 depicts the story of a young girl, Kate, who is constantly bullied by two girls at her school. This harrowing tale…
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Well acted short film (17 minutes) that depicts the devastating effects of relentless bullying.  Difficult to watch because it is unflinching in it's depiction of bullying events and the targeted child's descent into pain and self-injury. 

 

Unfortunately, bullying like this does happen.  And, girls can be this mean.  And, bystanders can be swept up by group dynamics and join in abusive behavior.  We cannot leave anyone, let alone children, alone with this kind of experience and pain.  Please be an upstander, every minute of every day.  If you know of a child who is being bullied - please pay loving attention and get them help - it doesn't just go away...   Peace,  Lisa

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10 Tips For Dealing With Bullies At Work

10 Tips For Dealing With Bullies At Work | Bullying | Scoop.it
How do you know whether you're being bullied, or simply dealing with a difficult boss or co-worker?
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:

Bullying exists in all environments and in all phases of life. This article helps identify and cope with workplace bullying:

"The clearest sign is that bullying is something that happens again and again -- it's not just your boss having a bad day every once and a while.

The abuse can include yelling; intimidating or humiliating behavior, like angry criticism and personal insults; or sabotage, whether it's vicious gossip or taking credit for someone else's work."

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What if Gay was Straight & Straight was Gay? {Warning: Triggering Video.}

What if Gay was Straight & Straight was Gay? {Warning: Triggering Video.} | Bullying | Scoop.it
As my fourteen year old kid said quietly as I was watching and getting ready to blog this, "Mom, stop typing. You need to see the end. Because this is what really happens."
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:

Extremely powerful and very difficult to watch...exactly the reason to watch it.  Often times we want to turn away from things that feel scary or too painful - but then we leave the people going through these experiences alone.  Watch this and please be an advocate for change: express love, acceptance and support for anyone who may be ostracized;  and confront hate, intolerance and cruelty whenever you see it!

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He's The Only One In His School. Instead Of Feeling Special, He Gets Bullied Everywhere.

He's The Only One In His School. Instead Of Feeling Special, He Gets Bullied Everywhere. | Bullying | Scoop.it
He even gets grief from his principal? Wow.
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:

Kids are often teased/bullied/rejected because they appear different.  Here's a gentle person who is bravely speaking his truth - both of being ostracized and of finding support to help him to unexcusedly be himself and that he is not alone.  I am glad there are organizations like GLSEN and Upworthy -  bringing attention and support to individuals and trying to help society to become more understanding and accepting of "differences". 

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Bullying and Corporate Psychopaths at Work: Clive Boddy at TEDxHanzeUniversity

Clive is a Professor of Leadership and Organizational Behavior at Middlesex University in England. For the past seven years, he has studied the evidence and ...
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:

Bullying happens in all environments and throughout life.  Increasingly, there is more acknowledgement of work-place and adult bullying.  Here is a TED talk by a professor whose own experience with seemingly (he only briefly refers to it in his talk) severe workplace bullying encouraged him to study and research adult workplace bullying dynamics.

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On Being Good

On Being Good | Bullying | Scoop.it
Note: Sharon Goens-Bradley, the Healing Justice Program Director in Minneapolis, shared this message at Iowa Yearly Meeting (Conservative) this summer and agreed to let us publish it here at Acting in Faith.
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:
Very interesting article - if you think about relationship dynamics, read this article - very insightful into how "being good" entitles a person to turn a blind eye to someone else's pain (in the article you will see how this fosters bullying).
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Playground Heroes

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Who can stop bullying? Not just parents and teachers, argue Ken Rigby and Bruce Johnson.
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Activating bystanders is the key to changing bullying when it is happening.

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Cyberbullying: Avoiding Tragedies With a Community Cyber-Shield - Huffington Post

Cyberbullying: Avoiding Tragedies With a Community Cyber-Shield - Huffington Post | Bullying | Scoop.it
Cyberbullying: Avoiding Tragedies With a Community Cyber-Shield Huffington Post These two girls, as well as the others (when the story was initially released, the sheriff stated there could've been as many as 15 girls involved in harassing Rebecca...
Lisa Catania, LCSW's insight:
Too often, we are not proactive. Too often, we wake up only when tragedy knocks on our door, or someone's who we perceive to be so similiar to ourselves that we startle to awareness/action... 

The danger in this with bullying is that i...t IS happening everyday, right under our noses. When we are not identifying it and helping children (and adults) in the dynamics, we are part of the dynamic that perpetuates it's existance. Children, especially victims, receive messages through non-attention and non-action that abuse is their problem alone - and often they can deduce that they are responsible, alone, deserving, and increasingly desperate.

Please use our resources and contact us to support you, your school, your community to proactively address bullying.

Peace, Lisa Catania and Bully Free Beverly Team
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