"There’s a world of difference between fitting in and belonging. Fitting in is trying to squeeze into a pair of skinny jeans. There’s nothing wrong with skinny jeans. But sometimes you just want to relax and let it all hang out.
Fitting in forces you to change your shape. It can cut off the circulation from your authentic life blood. It’s the same with conformity. You have to become someone you aren’t in order to find a place in a group of family, or whatever it is. That’s no way to live. Its stifling, suffocating, soul destroying.
Belonging, on the other hand, is liberating. Belonging, on the other hand, is liberating. Its like wearing your pajamas all day, or as we say in Australia hanging in your “tracky dacks.” They’re just so comfortable, and if you wear them long enough they feel like part of you.
That’s how authenticity works. You decide who you are, and wear it often enough, it becomes you."