Stepping into other people’s shoes has been a catalytic force for social change throughout human history.
You can always tell when a good idea has come of age: people start criticising it. That’s certainly the case when it comes to empathy.
Empathy is a more popular concept today than at any time since the eighteenth century, when Adam Smith argued that the basis of morality was our imaginative capacity for “changing places in fancy with the sufferer.” Neuroscientists, happiness gurus, education policy-makers and mediation experts have all been singing its praises.
As a business leader, here are some ways to harness empathy and make it your superpower, too:
1. Use empathy to create your vision. Empathy is commonly explained by the phrase "walk a mile in someone else's shoes." But it's more than just that. It's walking side by side with someone, listening with intent, and using the knowledge gained to create your vision.
2. Use empathy to become mission-driven....3. Use empathy to inspire loyalty....4. Use empathy as a your default communication tool....
Aggression should be weeded out of the human race and replaced by empathy, according to renowned physicist professor Stephen Hawking.
"The human failing I would most like to correct is aggression. It may have had survival advantage in caveman days, to get more food, territory, or partner with whom to reproduce, but now it threatens to destroy us all.
"A major nuclear war would be the end of civilisation, and maybe the end of the human race. The quality I would most like to magnify is empathy. It brings us together in a peaceful, loving state."
A romantic relationship is a fitting harbor for empathy.
According to attachment theory, in a relationship, both partners regulate each other’s blood pressure, heart rates, breathing, and the levels of hormones in one another’s blood.
When two people join together and become attached, they establish one physiological unit and are no longer separate entities in this regard (Levine and Heller 2010). Moreover, we are constantly in tune with our partner whether we like it or not...
Getting to a place where you can genuinely empathize with your partner may not always be easy or feel natural, especially if you are experiencing your own obstacles. Yet if you keep in mind the effects – relationship stability, being completely in sync with your partner, and receiving appeciation in return – you may see that demonstrating empathy becomes effortless.
Can you feel that? It's called empathy and it's having a moment. Experts have discovered that putting yourself in someone else's shoes is not just an important life skill, it's also intrinsic to happiness.Author Brene Brown calls empathy a 'sacred space' where you climb down into another person's hurt.
This is crucial because it fosters connection – something sympathy alone can't do. If that seems a little touchy-feely, stay with me, because the virtue traditionally associated with shoulder squeezes and self-sacrifice is more powerful – and surprising - than you think.
The Neurobiology of “We”. Relationship is the flow of energy and information between people, essential in our development. "The study of neuroplasticity is changing the way scientists think about the...
“Relationship is key,” he emphasizes. “When we work with relationship, we work with brain structure. Relationship stimulates us and is essential in our development. People rarely mention relationship in brain studies, but it provides vital input to the brain.
Relationship stimulates us and is
essential in our development.
People rarely mention relationship
in brain studies, but it provides
vital input to the brain.
Every form of psychotherapy that works, works because it creates healthier brain function and structure.… In approaching our lives, we can ask where do we experience the chaos or rigidity that reveal where integration is impaired.
We can then use the focus of our attention to integrate both our brain and our relationships. Ultimately we can learn to be open in an authentic way to others, and to ourselves.
The outcome of such an integrative presence is not only a sense of deep well-being and compassion for ourselves and others, but also an opening of the doors of awareness to a sense of the interdependence of everything. ‘We’ are indeed a part of an interconnected whole.””
Daniel Goleman talks with Greater Good about his new book, A Force for Good: The Dalai Lama's Vision for Our World.
The Dalai Lama has a long history of meeting and collaborating with social scientists—psychologists, neuroscientists, economists, and others looking to understand the science of human emotions and behavior. Through these collaborations, he has learned about the research in this area and has encouraged scientists to pursue fields of inquiry more directly aimed at serving the public good.
Compassion is the most transforming energy in the universe with everything we all long for – kindness, caring, loving. It is a courageous state of mind and heart, with far-reaching consequences in terms of how we experience ourselves and reality…
Does research supports the value of practicing Compassion?
Yes. Scientific research shows that being compassionate can improve health, well-being, relationships and sense of purpose.
Compassion can be cultivated by meditation practice and offers many benefits:
Strengthens brain circuits for pleasure and reward and leads to lasting increases in self-reported happinessReduces risk of heart disease by boosting the positive effects of the vagus nerveMakes people more resilient to stress; lowers stress hormones in the blood and salivaBoosts the immune responseIncreases Positive emotion, decreases ruminationDecreases negative emotions such as: hatred, jealousy, angerEnhances communication and connection with others so better relationshipsMore compassionate people / parents / workers / societies have better social skills, take care of their most vulnerable members, assist other nations in need, and perform more acts of kindness.
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As we turn our awareness to the shift from “me” to “we,” we are faced with the joys and sorrows of maintaining healthy relationships. Supported by both Buddhism and Western psychology, the keys to healthy relationships include not only empathy and compassion, but also the assertive strength and boundaries that allow us to keep our heart open. These states of mind are based on underlying states of your brain. The emerging integration of modern neuroscience and ancient contemplative wisdom offers increasingly skillful means for activating those brain states--and thus for cultivating a caring heart, effective communication, balance during upsets and more fulfilling relationships.
Empathy is getting a lot of press these days. But with a culture of extreme individualism where online interactions outnumber in-person conversations, it can be hard to cultivate an empathetic mind-meld.
But the benefits of strong empathic skills are legion: first, you’ll understand the motivations and needs of people around you. People’s actions, no matter how wacky, will start to make sense (“Well, duh, if that happened to me I’d probably act like that, too.”), which will in turn make you less judgy and defensive - and that will make you less stressed out....
So how can we build our empathetic muscle? Here are 6 ways to practice:
Method #1: Read More (Especially Literature)...Method #2: Be a Mirror...Method #3: Question the Golden Rule...Method #4: Turn the Tables...Method #5: Use These 3 Magic Phrase (But Only if They're True) ...Method #6: Let Your Heart Break...
Starts talking about empathy and empathic listening at 40:30, discusses presence from 42:00 to end. Transcript: "You've heard much in this conference about the skill of empathic listening. I simply want to underscore what has been said because I believe that it plays a large part in our future. I come to believe that a very sensitive listening is one of the most powerful forces for growth that I know.
When I can let myself enter softly and delicately, the vulnerable inner world of the other person. When I can temporarily lay aside my views and values and prejudices. When I can let myself be at home in the fright, the concern, the pain, the anger, the tenderness, the confusion, which fills his or her life. When I can move about in that inner world without making judgments,. When I can see that world with fresh unfrightened eyes. When I can check the accuracy of my sensing's with him or her being guided by the responses I receive.
Then I can be a companion to that inner person, pointing to the felt meanings of what is being experienced. Then I find myself to be a true helper, a welcome companion, and aid to growth and help.
Listening seems such a easy word, I find it a lifetime task to achieve true listening and a task well worth the effort.
There is another very subtle factor in the healing relationship which I have experienced and that I would call presence. It is certainly known to physicians. ..... I to have experienced this. When I am at my best as a group facilitator, or a therapist, I discover this characteristic. I find that when I am closest to my inner intuitive self, when I am somehow in touch with the unknown in me, when perhaps I am in a slightly altered state of consciousness, then what ever I do seems to be full of healing. Then simply my presence is releasing and helpful....
A new book argues that selflessness, not selfishness, creates more genetic success.
But according to physicist and science writer Stefan Klein’s new book, the idea that we are born to be selfish is dead wrong. In Survival of the Nicest: How Altruism Made Us Human and Why It Pays to Get AlongKlein argues that selflessness, not selfishness, creates more genetic success, and that proof for this has been gaining momentum among scientists, gradually challenging the “survival of the fittest” model in evolution.
Selflessness, after all, has some
incredible benefits. With selflessness
comes compassion and empathy,
Selflessness, after all, has some incredible benefits. With selflessness comes compassion and empathy, the combination of which lays the foundation for vital survival skills that were required by humans to colonize the world—skills, for example, like the ability to learn to follow common goals. By Joseph Ferrell |
You are your own worst critic. Self-compassion is the act of extending kind thoughts towards yourself. Learn how to live with more self-compassion today.
1. Start With The Basics
It’s very difficult to extend any compassion towards yourself if you aren’t letting yourself meet your most basic needs.
Get full nights of rest, eat clean and nutritious food, and get some form of exercise at least two or three times per week.
Living a sedentary lifestyle, with little rest, and a sugary, white flour based diet is the fastest way to burn out on a cellular level. Just because you have opposable thumbs and the ability to think rationally doesn’t mean that you aren’t an animal that has certain needs to maintain a baseline level of health.
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